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*Sgirl24
writes:Ok so Ive like this guy for about two and a half months now who I have slept with prolly six or seven times now. When we first started hanging out he was really sweet and wanted to hang out all the time but then after about a month he told me he wasnt over his ex and that he didnt want a relationship with me. I told him i completely understood and that it was cool if we were just friends. So we didnt hang out again for about two weeks and we slept together that night. then again a week later and then again a week later. but outside of the bar we both go to he doesnt initiate talking to me. But every week he watches me dance and seems jealous when i dance with other guys. I asked his best friend if i was wasting my time and he told me no but im just so unsure as of what I should do here. He even told me sex was a serious thing and that we did it too quickly but then he is still having it with me as if it was no big deal. What should I do? I really like him but am I wasting my time?
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reader, Ms.Sweet dreams  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 well that guy is a liar and dont waste ur time with him. if he just feel jealous about u dancing with other guy coz he dont want to get ur attention by other and he just use u to be a sex material. can't u see he is not serious about u why should u be blind loving him. don't be stupid girl coz i know u r beautiful enough to find a right guy for u. if i were u i will ignore him coz he just playing u and with his gf. so don't be a loser at the end. find other guy not with a committed guy. goodluck!!!
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reader, VSgirl24 +, writes (28 September 2007):
VSgirl24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello all. Sooo he was really flirty and then asked me to come over and I said no. Then when I got home he texted me and asked again and I said yes and went over there (looking extremely unsexy i might add) and he tried stuff like five minutes after we got in bed but i said i was tired and just took his hand and held it and we cuddled all night long (which we NEVER do) So i guess well see if he calls if not ah well im not too worried about it anymore to be honest. But its nice to have a cuddle/fuck buddy every once in a while ;) thanks for all the answers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): You're a fuck buddy. Probably not gonna be more than that.
It really doesn't amount to a whole lot that he displays an jealousy when you flirt with anyone else. That's just a normal knee-jerk possessive response when it comes anyone that a dude is sleeping with, even if he doesn't want any more than that.
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reader, VSgirl24 +, writes (26 September 2007):
VSgirl24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the answers girls! Tonight I am going to go out and just say hi and if he asks me to come over im going to say no and see what he does. :) If he doesnt care then thats that im done. Ill let you know how it goes! :) thanks again!
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reader, samohir  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Semms like fuck buddy relationship. There is nothing wrong with it, if sex is good, but if u want a relationship with him, and want to see if he likes too, apstinate for a while. dance with other guys, and if he asks you for going after in bed with him, just find excuse not to do so. see what will happen! If he is interested more than sex , he will certainly call you, and than forget about the past and start you would with some brand new guy.If you want he to take u serious,Act like one, if you prefer fun and sex than just have it!
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reader, Emmajane  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 I tend to agree with the others. If you want more than just sex with him you'll probably be disappointed. He's a guy, and if you give it to him on a plate he'll take it, however his comments seems to suggest he feels he wants a girl to be more "hard to get". Yet he feels he can sleep around. Give him a miss honey, if you're looking for something more serious.
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 I went through the same thing not too long ago. It all boils down to the fact that he just wants the sex. "I'm still in love with my ex, etc...but hey, let's still have sex!" Yeah, I don't think so. I am not judging you for having sex with him, even after he told you that. It is completely your decision. However, if you find yourself having feelings for him, I would reconsider the sex, unless he's willing to commit to you. You deserve so much better, my dear!
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reader, gbean +, writes (25 September 2007):
hey sweetie, im sorry to say you are wasting your time.
i know you like him and he is prolly all you think about... but the fact of the matter is he is using you.
you like him, you talk to him for a bit, you sleep with him... then BAM hes still into his ex?! no huny run dont walk away from him... im telling you right now this is a heart brake waiting to happen. write me back let me know whats up. good luck *gbean*
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reader, superbunny +, writes (25 September 2007):
 This may not be the answer you're looking for - but he is nearly 100% certainly using you for sex. He gets jealous of these guys dancing with you because you're his 'sex buddy'. If you wanted a relationship; you shouldn't have pounced into bed with him - make him chase! I'd say ditch him and find someone you'll be treated better by. x
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reader, K3rry +, writes (25 September 2007):
May be you are wasting your time, it seems like he is just wanting you for sex.
He hasn't obviously got over his ex what he is doing with you could just be as simple as the fact that he is wanting to get back at her. Make her feel Jelous!
Stop sleeping with him on such a regular basis and see if hes still a keen with you with out it, if he is maybe he really likes you and does want to be with you.
Maybe his mates are right and this guy has the real hots for you, if i was you i wouldn't give up!
If he isn't interested then he wouldn't keep coming back to you all the time.
Give him time to get over his ex and hopefully he will come running back.
Good luck and all the best in this situation i hope this has been some help.
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