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writes: OK, I've been friends with this girl, (Donna) for about 4-5 months. I liked her ever since i met her, she's goofy, cute, and all the above... i think I'm in love with her.. All i can do is think about how amazing she is all day and night.. I can't seen to get her off my mind, Even when I'm hanging out with another girl.. She says she doesn't want to get together or have sex or anything like that because "Were too good of friends".. I've heard that phrase WAY too many times.. but yet when were alone she holds my hand and kisses me out of no where. and all she does is tell me about all these guys that she "gets" with and likes from work.. IS she trying to make me jealous??? then when we hang out after she tells me these things she expects me to be OK, and nothing is wrong... i really REALLY like her, maybe even love her... if you have any advice on what to doORIf you know what her thought process is about all of this.ANY thing is appreciated thanks :/
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Hiyaaa Techv91,
Glad my comment made ya laugh!
Sounds like your a decent guy that your sensitive about things like that which is great! Shows your a man!
Maybe you should ask her what she wants coz it sounds like she is afraid to admit something or just plan confused.com. Yhhh you should totally ask her "ayt dawg why y'all doin this bruv like" but obviously not like that!
Update for any strange behaviour :D
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): You have been "in love" with a few girls before this. (I know him, everyone. Personally.) It really just seems like you're desperate to be in love and have love back. Don't force the feelings, especially on someone who might not feel the same way. You just need to relax and look at the important things in life. You're only torturing yourself with her. She might have the same feelings back, I say confront her. But if she doesn't, tell her to stop teasing you because that's just torture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): She probably doesn't want to get with you, but she gets off on knowing you want her so she teases you with kisses and stuff anyway. That would explain the mixed messages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionima freak, ive thought about tht, but im the sensitive type to where i dont wanna hurt her... but yet again shes hurting me.. and it made me laugh... your response.. idk y
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionima freak, ive thought about tht, but im the sensitive type to where i dont wanna hurt her... but yet again shes hurting me.. and it made me laugh... your response.. idk y
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (24 July 2011):
Hiyaaaa,
Woooooooooooooooooow! She is a good one!
She is really hard to tell!!!!!
What I think you could do is tell her straight up that you like her. Honestly straight up just like that. Just like em scene in the movies or something.
Or...
what you could do is leave her hanging. For example touch her face look her straight in the eye and then be like your beautiful and then leave, then the next day be like "yo homie how you doing!?" If you do that she will be thinking about you, and seriously thinking about what she wants too because she is confused so give her time to think and like I said leave her hanging.
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (23 July 2011):
 Your welcome...let us know how it goes :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit all makes total sense, and she really does confuse me so very much... its been like this since i met her...
thnks for the answer
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): I think you need to tell her you want to be more than friends. Tell her that it bothers you that she holds hands and kisses you but just wants to be friend. I certainly dont kiss my male friends. I think she may have feelings for you, she might want to take it slowly if she was hurt in the past and also to be sure of your feelings for her. So i would say just talk to her and say everything you said here.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (23 July 2011):
Hmmm it's a tricky one this one because she is sending you mixed signals. To me, and maybe this is a personal thing, holding hand's is more intimacy than friendship entails and so is kissing (depending on type, tongues and full-frontal is, pecks aren't). However, and this is the first thing you now have to bear in mind, this will be different for each person; so in her own mind she maybe just be being friendly where as in yours this is so much more (partially because you want it to be, but not without justification in my eyes) so, be aware of that.
Assuming she is sending mixed-signals for the purpose of arguments sake there are other explanations for this other than the one you want it to be (naturally, you will seize on that one though). The least charitable explanation is that she wants to have her cake and eat it; monopolise your affection without her making the commitment. More generous explanations exist though; she could be genuinely confused herself about what she feels and if shes mentioning multiple guys then yes, it does seem she struggles to keep her affections in one place. She could want too and be scared of committing to you purely because she treasures the friendship and doesn't want to gamble that by entering a relationship with you.
So, whether shes aware of it or not, she COULD be trying to make you jealous and therefore encourage you to make the first move because she feels too scared to be able too. I think you need to wait until one of these incidences happens and talk to her about how your feeling because if you leave this and let it go on it will just tear you up inside. Just say 'I know you have told me how you feel, but when you do that it really confuses me,' tell her how you feel and ask why she does what she does. Good luck, hope it all turns out ok for you :)
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