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writes:Well, there is this guy, and I am absoloutly bananas about him. I'm pretty darn sure he likes me too (like really sure), but there is one problem: my friend. She is a total bitchy bitch bitch and I hate her sometimes, but deep down I love her. (y'know?)ANYWAY, she claims she LURVES him, much more than I. The thing is, she changes who she likes every month. It's only october and she's had 2 'sweeties' (people of whom she has a crush). She's been on this one for A WHILE though and I'm not sure when she's going to go off him.She's really not that attractive in the looks department, and she's obnoxious and loud. I really can't see why ANY boy would like her. (not to be mean, of course).Anyway, I really don't want to hurt her feelings, but I want to ask him out. She's forbidden me to ask him out and if he asks me out, she has ordered me to say no. "But there are other people you could like! HE'S MINE"*tantrum time*I know for a fact that he doesn't like her, because he told me so. I really don't know what to do, because I really don't want to upset her (she's part of a very tense social situation at the mo).But on the other hand I am (as I said before) totaly gooey-bananas jelly legs automatic-lip-puckering innnnsaaannneeee over him.Please help (and I apologise for the muddled-up state of this question :P)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Okay this problem is A LOT like me and my mate. I'm practicaly this jealous bitch everyone's talking about though. I've fancied this guy for about 5 years and I go out with guys to try and get over him cos I basicaly know I have NO chance with him at all. I think both of you should agree that whoever gets him first then the other should try and be happy for the other. And cos it's a lot like our story I'm not being a bitch over it. Cos she's known him for like 2 years. I've known him for 10 we have more history. Complicated history. It's hard to just forget.
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (27 October 2007):
 Its time you stand for yourself, shes just being jealous and wants him for herself, if you want to go out with him GO OUT WITH HIM your not her she cant ruin your life to make hers better. Tell her how you feel around her. dont let her take control of you
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 girls are always jelous of each other ...
thinking of it i had the same thing going on in my life a girl who clamed to be my best freind dlespt with the boy (i loved)..
so tell u something go for it cz if she is really your freind she would respect your life and it isn't her right to tell u what u do!!it's your life ....
gd luck in whatever u chose to do bye XXX
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reader, queenerin  +, writes (24 October 2007):
All right..... what kind of friend orders you around like that? I understand you like her and she seems to be a bit eccentric & perhaps interesting... but, she didn't date him.. they don't have any kind of relationship! If she's really your friend, she'll be mature and realize there's something there between you and this guy.. she shouldn't stop being friends with you. if she gets upset, that's not your problem.... its HERS. SO, stop giving your friend so much power. i understand the whole girl.competition.jealousy thing... but, she's gotta get over it eventually. she isn't going to drop you as a friend .. unless she's really not worth being a friend in the first place. right? and your the lucky one who gets the guy. she's just jealous if she's upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): I understand you don't want to upset her, but you have written more than enough things in this question that would offend her! She really doesn't seem like a true best friend if you are like this with each other. You could stall so as not to create conflict between you and if the boy asks you out you could either say yes but keep it quiet or you could simply choose between the boy and your friend. I don't know which one you value more.Either way: best of luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Well the best thing I could say is,do what your heart says.If you like someone..Go for it! I mean why the hell not.Look life is to short to second guess.Besides do you run your life or does she?? Ask yourself that then you will see the light.
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