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writes:I have no idea why this is bothering me so much. Usually this type of thing never bothers me, and I do not know why it is bothering me now. My girlfriend has always acted bi-curious, and it never bothered me. She would tell me things, like, her fiend (who is female) is the only attractive friend she has that is a woman. That she likes the sound of women moaning, and she looks at womens figures and their tits. Well today I would not tell her something that she wanted to know. She said, "Come on! Just tell me, I am curious! Please?" And I told her "Yea, I know you are bi-curious.". She replies, "I am not just bi-curious babe." So I say, "So you are finally out in the open?" "Yep." And then she continued to pursue getting the answer out of me. After the phone call, something hit me hard in the stomach. I realized that now she was officially bi, and it was bothering me. I never felt like this before about it. I guess in my mind, I know she gos over the same friend she thinks is attractive's house allot. She recently went to her that same friend's pot smoking party, and she also drink and stuff. Then, something else entered my mind. Shortly before the party took place, we had a problem with our relationship. I told her she could do whatever she wants. She said she would, but did not want to hurt me. Meaning that she would have sex and stuff with, now apparently, any other person that she liked. So we settled it were she would not cheat on me, as one of the guidelines as she wanted a more stable relationship. But then she said "What if I was high and I do not remember it?". Then after the party, she told me she did not know what she did. Mind you it was at her sexy looking friends (her only attractive looking to her friend's) house. Now she suddenly knows she is Bi. I guess I just kinda figured out why it was bothering me, because I wrote it out. Does it sound to anyone else that she cheated on me? I mean, to be honest, as long as she was happy I am fine with it. But she made such a big deal about wanting not to cheat on me. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright, that makes sense. It is like pissing on the relationship. I just want her bi faze to end, if not end, her bing more committed to me because she made a huge fucking deal about it.
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 October 2007):
 Girls that age I wouldn't call them a-sexual or bi-sexual. I know women go through a phase which is more bi-curious. I have quite a few female friends, and I can't remember one who has not been with another girl at least once.
With her, your still young. Play it as you want too. I'd let her know her behavior is like pissing on the relationship you two have. As you get older you need to drop the "let her do what she wants" attitude. In the relationship there are two people, each person is equally important. You don't deserve to be walked on, just as she deserves not to be walked on by you.
Don't compromise who you are for anyone. Your beliefs, your honest makes up your character and your integrity. People can take everything you own, you could live without a home, but one thing NO ONE can take away is who you are. Build yourself to be strong, because the strong you become, the stronger the women will be that you'll attract.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thought I could trust her. I knew something was up, I just am very hurt about it. Normally I could care less, but she made a huge fucking deal about it. I do not know what to do, break up with her (that would kill me), or keep letting her do what she wants... maybe that is for the best. That way, she is happy.I do trust her ... just not about other people. And I am not going to give up on her just because she does not know who she is. I know it might sound foolish, but I am just going to go along with it for now. Maybe is the future she will be more committed, she is a young girl after all.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (27 October 2007):
 hi.
sorry to say if you are in a relationship and one of the party has a relationship with another person, no matter which of the sexes it may be, then that is cheating plain and simple.
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 October 2007):
It would take quite a bit of pot smoking for someone to not remember what they did. I never really did it myself, but my brother sure did. He'd remember everything he munched on afterward as well.
I think there is something up with how she's behaving. When she says, what if she gets hi and doesn't remember. My answer to that is, if there is a possibility of something happening because of a situation, then it would be her fault for knowing placing herself in that situation in the first place.
I think by what she said, she's a bit flaky. I really wouldn't waste much time trying to figure out what she's doing. I'd find someone who I could trust, who wasn't confused about who she was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do not even care anymore.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 what do u want with a bisexual girl?sorry but i really don't wanna say it but i have to i think she cheated on u cz she is saying all these things out of regret.......hope am wrong ...gd luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToo complicated? Too long? What? I kind of need an answer, as it is bugging me. I do not know how to handle this one.
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