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*heerwhore23
writes:Okay first of all I don't want anyone judging or making rude comments on here. I just need some serious advice. Okay. So last night me and my friends got really drunk at this party. My ex was there.. Well.. I don't even know if I should call him an ex since we dated in 8th grade.. But anyways. He's always liked me.. Like he said he could never get over me. But he recently got a girlfriend..and now I realize that I like him alot. So back to the story.. We were really drunk and we made out.. His gf found out and blamed it on me even though he made the first move.. But I didn't stop him so I took the blame.. She didn't break up with him but I'm pretty sure he's not aloud to talk to me anymore. I know he's still in love with me at the end of the day but I don't wanna tell him I love him too cuz that will ruin his relationship and I pretty much already did..what do I do!?:/
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reader, cheerwhore23 +, writes (21 December 2010):
cheerwhore23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo should I talk to him about it or what? I'm really scared that he won't even talk to me anymore.. I'd rather have him as a friend than nothing at all. I was thinking about waiting til school so it will be kinda blown over..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): I second the male anon who says to follow your heart, and if it's meant to be it will happen.
express your feelings to him and see what happens.
A relationship between two people doesn't get ruined all of a sudden solely because of one outsider.
If a woman comes onto a man who is 'taken', that is not the cause of his relationship falling apart. (I'm a married woman and I've had many men come onto me in the past, which did not end my marriage because I chose to not do anything about it.) The relationship falls apart if and when the man chooses to do things with this other woman that hurt his relationship. The outside woman can be the catalyst for setting things in motion that end the relationship, but the underlying weaknesses were already there within the relationship just waiting for the "right" time to surface.
He may 'have' a girlfriend, but the fact that he cheated on her says something about the strength of his bond to her. Some relationships should be ending but only continue because of people's selfish or misguided reasons.
however just be aware that if he could cheat on his girlfriend rather than break up with her, then he could do the same to you if you got with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): Both of you are to blame. He's into you more than his girlfriend and wants to be with you. His actions spoke. If you were his girlfriend and his girlfriend was you, he would not have did to you what he did to his girlfriend. Simple as that. I am sure about this, because I did the same thing that your ex did. He loves you and would get back with you at the drop of a pin.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 December 2010):
1 - No he doesn't still love you. At all. He just had a great time kissing you and that was it. If he loved you, he'd have dumped her and come to you. He didn't. I'm afraid that you were used, and you kind of allowed that.
2 - He is to blame as much as you. He cheated on his girlfriend, and you were apart of that. So don't beat yourself up too much.
You need to let this guy go. You know he's a liar and a cheat. He lied about loving you, because if he did he would never have behaved that way. He lied to his girlfriend, because he doesn't love her either. And he's a total cheat who you can never, ever trust. Learn from this. Don't bother with taken men. They'll only leave you hurt, and looking bad.
Work on your own life, don't go near him or his girlfriend and meet better guys.
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reader, not fat +, writes (20 December 2010):
from the outside it looks like you only want him cuz he is with a new female. let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): I say follow your heart. If you two are meant to be then you're meant to be.
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