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writes: I was having a casual relationship with a good friend of mine and contracted herpes from him. He knew that he had it but didn't tell me.Now he has a new girlfriend, she's 16 (he's 23) and she's a really nice girl, they've gotten into a serious relationship but he hasn't told her he has it (he is required by law to tell her)I know it's not my business to tell her, but if I don't... I know he won't... and by then it will be too late and she will probably have it. What should I do?
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reader, nicolexue  +, writes (11 January 2008):
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There are over 65 million Americans currently living with an STD, 19 million new STD infections each year, one in three sexually active men and women living with Herpes, and about 50% of all sexually active Americans affected by HPV. One-third of all single and dating Americans now exploring online personal ads (BusinessWeek, 2006) and niche dating has never been hotter at STDromance.com
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
Sheesh...this "good friend" of yours is not a good friend at all !If he did not inform you that he has herpes, he's a JERK !Now he's with a sweet young 16 year old who is naive & inexperienced & she is about to be RUDELY AWAKENED with the fact that she may have herpes too !Ignore him...focus on her...be kind enough to tell her the truth...you can guarantee if her parents find out a promiscuous male gave her herpes, they'll be hell to pay !
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2005): Yes, yes, yes...be a responsible person and TELL her! You might be saving her a lifetime of worry and grief if she contracts this disease. Do the right, moral thing and tell her...the sooner the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2005): Please do tell her, and tell him that you're going to tell her. This should be his burden to bear, but since it's obvious that he's not going to take responsibility for his actions, you have to act to save this poor girl from picking up his infection.First, tell him that you're going to spill the beans. That at least gives him an opportunity to do what he knows he should and tell her himself.If that doesn't work, please take this girl aside, treat her as an equal, and tell her that you have some important news that she needs to know. Then spell it out, just as you have here. "I know it's not any of my business, but this is what happened to me and I don't want it to happen to you..."Any fallout from your actions is going to be HIS FAULT. If he had smallpox, you wouldn't think twice about telling her to steer clear. Why should it be any different with herpes?
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reader, becky05 +, writes (4 July 2005):
TELL HER NOW!!! it may be embarrassing to tell her in person but you have to do it so that she can either prevent catching it or get treatment. Could you even send an anonymous text to her telling her if you are too embarrassed to face her. in any case SHE MUST BE TOLD!!!
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