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*iaxoxo
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. As we have gotten older, he has had increasing financial responsibilities. I have much less financial responsibilities and I understand this so I usually pay for going out, dinner, trips, etc. I feel really upset sometimes that he doesn't take me out anymore. I asked him a few months ago if sometime in the next few months if he could take me out somewhere just to be nice to me. He said that he didn't know if he could, because of money issues. It'd be a lot easier for me if he did some thoughtful things as a surprise instead of doing things that cost money - but he doesn't even do that. He seems content with the way things are. I feel like I deserve an occasional night out. When I confronted him about it, he said he just took me out recently to a particular place. I don't really consider that venue a night out... I have a lot of fun when I'm with him and love him, I would just really like to feel a little more special.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (10 May 2011):
 stop paying for things,if he asks why just say u wanna save money for a diploma or whatever. see how he acts then. but i gotta say,uve been pretty patient. i would of dumped him. if u didnt realize it,u were actually beggining him .not a good look.
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reader, Liaxoxo +, writes (10 May 2011):
Liaxoxo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response!
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reader, Lizzy111  +, writes (9 May 2011):
I am no one to judge, but in my eyes man should be a man and treat his woman to a nice dinner out at least couple times a month, I do get that we all work and should pull our forces together for bills etc, but any woman likes/needs to be made feel special here and there by having her man just taking care of a nice night out. I don't know how this hasn't turned you off towards him, u r a strong cookie compared to me, Best wishes!
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reader, XPandoraX  +, writes (9 May 2011):
In a long term relationship we can often begin to take our partners for granted or be taken for granted ourselfs. It's not that we love eachother any less it is just that the stresses of life become more apparent and we begin to loose that excitment of dating. If you have spoken with your partner about this problem, you need to show him you wont be taken for granted, that you need to feel special. If he will not make an effort for him, dont make an effort for him, why put more in that you get out? if he truly loves you like im sure he does, he will do somthing pretty quick :-) good luck!
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