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writes:After an afternoon boozing I thought it wise to get a taxi home! However id ran out of money and couldn't really afford it!On the way home I explained this to the taxi driver who said I could always pay at the other end, however my boyfriend was away from home with work so I knew there'd be no cash there!So here I made my mistake and rubbed his crotch, this lead to me performing oral in the taxi on the way home, when we got there I thanked him and went to go inside, but he said he hadn't finished and that I'd not paid my fare, so I brought him inside and we had ended up having sexIt's now been 2 weeks and this driver keeps driving past and knocking on, but my boyfriend keeps saying we haven't order led a taxi! I'm devastated and want to tel him but daren't, has my drunken night ruined our relationship? How can I convince him it was a mistake and that I was skint?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): This isnt going to be a popular opinion but IF this really wa a once off and IF you are truly sorry, simply complain the cabbie to the council. Get tested for sti's and change your drinking so that this never happens again. If you do all of the aboe and really regret what happened and you love your boyfriend, then he doesnt need to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): Yeah, that was pretty bad. why would you rub his crutch again? why would you get into his taxi without money? that's just super irresponsible. when you ordered yourlast drink, did you know it was your last money that you could use for taxi? I think if you tell your boyfriend he will leave. I would.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): If you love your boyfriend and truly care about making him happy you will own up to what you did so that he KNOWS WHO HE IS DATING.
Allow him to decide if you are the person he wants as his partner.
If you are selfish by all means sit on this and stew in the guilt and fear that he might find out. Not to mention the distrust you will begin to have as a result of your own actions. After all, if you could do it and he remained none the wiser, who's to say he doesn't cheat on you too and you have no clue. Fess up.
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reader, Mistresskiki +, writes (22 July 2014):
I assume the cabbie is licensed by the council? If he is, you need to let them know he has been harassing you as this is something HE shouldn't have done/been doing. I am not saying you weren't stupid (you were!), but this is also something he shouldn't have done either.
You have to tell your boyfriend as it will gnaw at you, even though it is likely he will break it off with you.
The main reason to tell him is so the cabbie no longer has that power over you and your life. It will be VERY difficult, I know, but if you want your life back (and the creepy cabbie out) you have to be honest.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (22 July 2014):
 What you did was foolish and you have put both your own health and that of your partner at great risk.
If you drink so much that you end up having sex with someone behind your partners back then you need to either seek help for the problem or learn to know your limits.
Your safety and health comes first - never drink so much that you would do something so foolish and never waste so much money on drink that you cant get home safely. There are too many people who will take advantage of a drunken, stranded young woman and that includes taxi drivers.
Convincing your boyfriend that you were too hard up financially so ended up giving both oral and full sex to a taxi driver wont make a scrap of difference. He isn't going to see that excuse as a legit reason to cheat. You say you couldn't afford a taxi, but that's bull shit. If you hadn't spent all your cash on booze then you could have got home safely.
Learn some self respect and self control.
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): You need to tell him and let him decide but personally if my gf told me she done it because she was drunk and skint I wouldn't feel sorry for her
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (22 July 2014):
 I'd say it's pretty likely over, not necessarily because of the sleeping with the cabbie, but the 2 weeks being sober and keeping that from him and making him look foolish shooing the cabbie away. Good luck.
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