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*elleeashton
writes:my boyfriend and i dated for two months, talked for three months before that, and have been close friends for three years, he sent me a text saying we need a break after i acted a little crazy (he went away to camp and i was having a hard time not being able to talk to him so i left him a voicemail saying we should have a break and then tried to take it back because it came out wrong but he wouldn't talk to me for two days until he sent me a text saying we needed a break to figure out if we could "handle this relationship") he hasn't talked to me since and that was two weeks ago. he put his exgirlfriend back on his top friends on myspace and took me off and changed his status to single, i know its silly to go by myspace but its the only way i have to know anything about him. obviously he went back to her whether they are dating or not (she would never date him just kept him waiting and breaking his heart so im not sure and im pretty sure she has a boyfriend but she was very upset when she found out he was dating someone else) either way it still hurts he hasn't talked to me. i have texted him once and he didn't text back i left it alone. i know he cared about me and still does. i don't understand why he hasn't talked to me ... im not mad about them if it makes him happy i am too and sincerely wish them the best... i just really miss him and want to talk to him. i just want my friend back. he broke my heart so why won't he talk to me? does that mean he cares too much to talk to me??? we are both in college and i love college and having fun, but i have never met another guy like him, he is my other half and i love him as more than just a boyfriend, as a bestfriend. and all i ever wanted was for him to be happy and if he is with her then amazing but if not i wanna be his shoulder to cry on even if not his girlfriend (us dating doesn't matter that much to me) what should i do? send him a letter saying im happy for him or just leave it alone and walk away from everything we had (in terms of friendship and love and everything we have been through together) i love that boy more than anything in the world and i just don't wanna lose him out of my life forever, i can get another boyfriend quickly so its not that i couldn't get anybody else ... i could get somebody my friends say is "better" than him ... but i don't want anybody else... what is he thinking? what is he feeling? can anybody help me? im so confused and it hurts
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (31 August 2008):
 You have to talk to him PERSONALLY. Forget texts. Forget emails. This is a matter you need to discuss in person, if you want it fixed.
In the conversation, tell him what you told us here. What you wrote here was full of emotion, sincerity, and it's clear you truely love him. I, a unbiased person who doen't even know you and just read your text, can feel your emotions coming through all of this.
I also think that writting him a letter would be a great idea. To some people (me included), it's a whole lot easier to write their true feelings and emotions than just say them. Also, a letter has the personal touch that a text and an email lack, which he might actually consider even more touching.
I also think you should try to follow Amac's advise. If you say you don't care if he's back with her but only want him as a best friend, then show it to him in action. Show him you have no remorse nor bad feelings, but that you just want to be with him because he's a great friend.
Good luck and I hope that he listens to you.
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reader, Amac  +, writes (30 August 2008):
I can only sympathise and say something kind of similar happened to me and I am still trying to fix it up seven months later... :( It is getting there... I think... slowly. My advice to you is honestly, if he is like the guy I care about, don't push it. Be around him as much as you can without making it obvious what you're doing and just be the person he liked, no matter how hard you have to act. Act the nice, relaxed, happy you. Smile at him when you can. Let him see no bad feeling. Act like a buddy if you get the opportunity but if he won't let you near enough to him, stick to smiles, 'hi' and waves for a start. Then see what happens. My guy way overreacted to me and he was angry but also he is angry with himself. It is very hard but patience is what I would advise. Hope my experiences help you even just a little xxx
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