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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for so long, we met over the internet at the beggining of 2008 and we met face to face on 14th august 2009. we have been through so much. we have so many memories. we go different places, especially because he lives in stamford and i live in ipswich so we both experience and go different places all the time, and go to the same places like the cinema. we have had some troubles during our relationship but i think this is the toughest badest one yet. i am only 15 and he has now only turned 18. he wants to go out clubbing now as hes started and hes added a load of girls on facebook. I only see him on weekends as i live far away, so every saturday he will want to go out. i only want him to every other weekend so he can spend a weekend at mine aswell but he wont he wants to go every weekend. do you think that its just because hes only just starting to party? hes going to react this way were he wants to go out every weekend but will if fade to just every other weekend after a while as it will become a usual thing to him so he wont wanna do it as much he says he wants me and him to be together forever and work out and he says the only reason he would ever leave me is if he hurts me so im trying to be strong and not show him how hurt i am otherwise he will leave me because he don't want me to get hurt anymore what should i do? I'm so low and can't eat because im so upset and always want to cry because everywhere i go it reminds me of him because we have a funny memorie together that i just dont want that to end because were doing more and more every weekend but now partying is in the way hes going to meet girls and not want me, i just don't want him to leave me but the real question i want to know is... is it always going to be this way? will he always want to party every weekend? or will he just go every other weekend? Please help me and answer anything you can i dont wanna feel like this anymore i want him back we was a perfect couple i dont wanna lose him so please dont tell me to just leave him because i'm not. i love him too much! ive already been taking stress pills and stuff from worrying hes going to cheat or leave me please help! thank you so much for reading xxx
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reader, Biancaaa.x. +, writes (27 August 2010):
Biancaaa.x. is verified as being by the original poster of the question i do tell him but he does need his own space and to be ith his mates not just me and i understand that, and i do want him going out as i dont want everything to just be about me and just what i want, he needs to have his own life too, but im just concerned do you think he will dump me from age difference or how he wants a girl that he can party with too and just want a girl his age, he says so many nice things to me like he never wants to loose me, never want anyone but me and he says he would never cheat as its not worth the risk loosing our relationship, but does this mean anything? could he still dump me from what ever he says? xxx
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reader, StephJayne +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Well, I met my boyfriend over the internet as well. And we live very far away and hardly see each other.
In my opinion, what I would do is talk to him. Sit him down face to face and explain to him how you feel. If he starts getting moody saying that you are not letting him do what he wants - then tell him that you are letting him do what he wants but you feel as though he is forgetting you and pushing you out of the way. He's supposed to be your boyfriend and he is supposed to love you - do anything for you. And because you two live so face away, he should do anything he can to see you. That's what my boyfriend does, he does anything he can to see me, especially because I am in full time education at College and he is just getting a part time job.
Tell him how much he means to you and you don't want to lose him, but you feel as though you are losing him. You don't know if he still cares about you because he is adding girls on facebook, and would rather go out clubbing than seeing you.
He could then say that you don't trust him, Which I'm sure you do, You would trust him to go out clubbing with his friends and not do anything stupid, but it's just the thought of not being with him. It might make the relationship a lot harder than it is already.
- Just tell him how you feel. And if he feels the same way then he should come and see you and leave clubbing to a monthly thing maybe?
If he really does love you hun, he isn't going to leave you, he would do anything to make you happy. so if him not going clubbing and coming to see you would make you happy, then he would do that.
If he starts partying then it could be hard for him to give it up, But, if he really does love you then he would do anything for you.
I hope this helps, anymore questions email me xxxx
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Nothing is going to get fixed if you don't tell him how you feel. If he hurt you, he shouldn't be leaving you, he should be trying to fix it, trying to make it up to you.
In my honest opinion, I think you aren't ready for a relationship with an older man, the reason being that things like this will happen a lot. He's an adult and pretty soon, I'm sure someone's going to start thinking he's a child molestor or something. Just be cautious about what you do alright?
I hope that helps.
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