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writes:Hi there. I'm an 18 year old girl, but feel like a bit of a child. My friend and I still play with barbie toys. Do you think this is really bad? If so, what could we do instead. Also, I've never had a boyfriend or a first kiss. I feel like ive missed out a lot. What can I do? I want to meet people but im shy and i dont think guys are into me Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise, but I don't appreciate being told what Im doing is wrong. Im not hurting anyone. And seeing a therapist is a stupid idea. RAINORFIRE, I really am thankful for what you said.
As for going to the cinema and what not, we do that all ready. We only play with dolls for an hour or half an hour at night.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 You missed out on alot lol, ok I kno plenty of 18 yr old girls heres what you missed out on so far,
Being pregnant, Having a jerk for a BF, getting a DUI, having a hangover, getting raped, crying for days from a broken heart, running up credit cards and ruining your credt or parents credit, going to jail because you did something really stupid, having three kids before you graduate college,
the list goes on.
Look your fine if your happy with the activities your doing with your friend who can judge you, becoming a woman is not what you do its who you are, they about it this way grown men and women make barbies not chilldren grown men and women even collect them if thats what your into thats fine you seem safe and happy i dont see a reason to change just so you can fit into what society says you should be doing at a certain age,
Heres a suggestion if you want to fill more mature do something positve besides bars clubs and bfs, you can go to college, get a job climb the latter, voulunteer become a mentor trust me you will become alot wiser and more mature with less regrets doing things like that.
Becoming a mentor is really positive you wll grow up and also have a positive influence on a younger girl, you should be able to check online for more information if your interested.
Drinking everyone wants to drink know adays its a fad like the wild west saloons and liquor stores on every corner, alcohol can be expensive it often taste awful and the side effects usually arent pleasant, i grew up in a city where theres a liqour store for every stop light.
My point is alcohol is not necessary to have a good time and feel more mature.
BOYs?MEN look they will come your way intime your destined to have your broken atleast once, one day you will look back to the days you just played with barbies and say to your self those where the good old days. Just be careful dont run into the arms of the first guy who bats his eyes at you because your lonely, sex pregnancy and STDs all go in the same basket in my opinion so be safe.
Heres a thought why dont you get an account on dearcupid help out others and trust me you will come to see the things your missing out on.
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (7 January 2010):
well the fact you still play with barbie dolls is a little strange to be honest darling.
after all you are now an adult and should be thinking about your education and what not.
however with out misleading you,you are still young and you cant hurry love.dont get rushed into kissing boys and that just take it as it comes..
i suggest you and your mate go out shopping to buy some clothes or go to the cinema,or go out drinking (not that im encouraging you to drink) but you are old enough.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 January 2010):
To be honest, it's sweet that you and your friend haven't grown up completely yet. There are a lot of girls who grow up far too quickly now and really regret it later. If you're both 18, just start going out sometimes together. That way you're at least no alone. Go a bar, or out to the cinema and such. You don't need to suddenly go from being a girl into a woman. Take your time. Have more fun with your friend out the house. And be aware of guys who'll try to use you too.
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