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writes:When i was 11 i had sex for the first time and got pregnant i just need someone to tell me im not a slut, am i ?? i am 11 and pregnant how do i tell my mum and what do i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): Well having sex at 11 is very young..
the first thing you you should do is go to a clinique and see if your got a std because your didnt use a condom
telling your mom your pregnant is probably the most difficult thing when you are so young..but if your not planning on keeping then you could go to a local clinique and they will let you have a abortion without your mom knowing if you are planning on keeping it then you need to tell her..its hard but what needs to be done needs to be done.you should dit her down one on one and start off by saying soemthing like "Mom,i made a mistake and i need you to be here for mee ..." or "Mom,i have something important to say tell you but im scared and i need you to more then ever right noww..."
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reader, flowerpotkid  +, writes (27 April 2009):
Don't worry i'm eleven too and i've gone and done exactly what you have. i havent told my mum yet but i'm planning on doing it maybe when the person who i had sex with is round to help me
we really luv eachother and have had sex several times but i didn't really think that i would actually get pregnant
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reader, tashelp  +, writes (4 August 2008):
i don't think you are a slut.... BUT a bit eager to find out what sex is like, this is an old question so no doubt your mother knows by now and hopefully is helping you with whatever you need. The old wives tail might come in here ( Take after your mother ? ).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Aw honey ! You have to tell your mum, this will be really hard for both of you, but it is the best thing to do. And yes she will be mad, but when she comes around, she will probably be understanding and helpful. Do not worry about being a slut - you are not a slut ! Do not take notice of anyone who calls you a slut !
If I were in your shoes, and had to tell my mum, I would wait til I was alone with her and just say that there is something you need to tell her, and you know she will be upset, but she will have to accept it and deal with it. And then just come straight out and say it. Hopefully she will not be too upset, and will help you through this tough time and give you good advice.
Keep us posted on what happens, and what your decisions are x
Good Luck Honey .. And I hope everything goes well 3
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reader, BlueEyedAngel  +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Darlin at age 11 you really need to go ahead and tell your mom. I was once in your shoes and trust me tell her and she will be angry but she will understand when the shock wears off. Please e-mail and lets talk, cause you do need to talk to someone. xxx Good luck sweetie
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): Dont be worried or afraid and stop worrying about the slut thing, you are not one! You were taken advantage of by someone who should have more sense but putting that aside go straight to your mum, she will be upset and probably cross at first but you are going to have to be brave and put up with that. You need medical attention now. If you need an abortion then the sooner the better so dont put off telling anyone. You will be ok, you sound old enough and mature enough to be able to go through all of this. You wont be the first and certainly not the last to have this happen to them, so stop worrying and get it out into the open and sorted, asap.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): I had similar problens without the pregnancy. I am now 20 but suffered child abuse and rape. Even if you willingly had sex with this guy you are only 11 you are not to blame. Most girls have sex with a guy very young as a way of making the guy happy and wanting him to like you and wanting to feel loved. If you can't tell your mum then write her a letter explain why you did it and that you are having a baby and if you want to keep it explain you are scared and need her help and although the situation is not ideal you are carrying your baby and her grandchild and that that alone still makes this situation wonderfull for you as you are havng your first baby your life and blood. No baby is a mistake the situations may be a little wrong but you can't look at this as a mistake things will be hard and your family may be a bit off with you for a while but thats just till they get used to it. Noone can judge you pet cause noone is perfect and you dono if other people in you family have been through similar things. So lastly don't blame yourself and don't feel bad and don't ever let anyone judge you just work on doing your best to give this baby the best life you possibly can!! All the best in the future!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): Darlin', you were taken advantage of by someone. 11 year old girls are not mature enough to make these decisions, and I'm so sad that someone put you in this position. Your mom loves you and you need her help right now, you need to tell your mom RIGHT AWAY. She will likely be mad that someone took advantage of you, not AT you. I know it's really scary, but just be brave and tell your mom that you are in trouble and you need her love and help.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (6 October 2007):
You need to admit you made a mistake. Now you have to do the right thing. That includes informing your parents as soon as possible. If they can't help, go to a religious welfare group and ask for help.
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reader, Lila +, writes (6 October 2007):
 You are not a slut,but you do sound confused and misguided. My best guess is simply that you were looking for love,or you were curious and that doesn't make you a slut. The only way to tell your mom is just to sit her down and tell her. It's not going to be easy but you can and must tell her. She is most likely going to be upset and cry,but she will always love you no matter what. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mom and I hope the best. You are more welcome to send me a message. The best of luck to you.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Babe it does not make you a slut, unfortunatly probably just poorly educated, it will not be easy telling your mum but it something you are just going to have to do, i don't think there is an easy way of doing it and i'm sure when your mum has got over the initial shock she will be there for you whatever you chose to do.
Take care.xx.
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (6 October 2007):
 You do realise it is illegal for you to have underage sex? Whoever the father is, he could go to prison for it! I'm sorry but there is only one way to tell your mum, come straight out and tell her, she will decide what to do, either to keep it or have an abortion, this was your choice and you have to deal with the results. I'm sorry. signed, just-ask-xx
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