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writes:I need immediate help, please.Before I explain my situation, I just want the people to know that I'm not really.. 'this' kind of a person. I don't know why I acted this way, and now I'm paying the price for my stupidity. I've always been independant and none too trusting, but.. ...gah.I've been going on a role-playing chatroom, a few months ago. I had several characters on there, and one of them was a 'body guard/servant'. I've been role-playing for about a year or two now, so I've grown accustomed to the things that happen, and I don't take them too personally. It's just a way for me to have fun, get away from high school stress, and simply.. r e l a x.Well, this guy that I've been 'serving'.. I really should have been more careful. A pitiful excuse on my part for all of this could be that back in Korea and Japan, these things really did not happen that much. I was naive, I admit it, and now.. ..I'm just in such deep trouble.From the chatroom, we started talking on MSN. He asked for my phone number on one occasion, and I gave it to him. I've made several good friends over the internet the past few years, whom I still befriend until this very day, so I did not think it was that bad. And then.. he asked for my address, saying he was going to send me a few gifts that was for my passed birthday. I know, I shouldn't have given it to him, what was I thinking?! But, I asked for his first, which he gave, and then.. ....I gave it to him.It turns out that the address he gave me was.. ...not a real one, not too suprisingly.This is just not right, and I don't like how this is going! I want to get out from this mess, but I can't without actually embarrassing myself, and dishonoring not only my parents but my family name. Perhaps in America here, it's not that widely respected.. the family name and such, and the value someone's face has. But from where I'm from, before I moved here, family honor was respected above all. And now.. ..gah, I've just ruined everything!He's been blackmailing me several times, saying that if I didn't do this, then he'll come to where I live when my parents are home. I couldn't really let that happen, so I went along with what he said..My parents.. aren't the most 'understanding' people in the world, like most Asians. Their 'methods' of teaching by hitting and alike would probably be considered not acceptable here in America, but it's just the way things are. I fear them, and what I really fear is what they'll do if they find out about this..I've sent him several pictures that he demanded for.. but now I'm starting to grow seriously afraid. Things weren't supposed to turn out this way, and now my grades are even going down. He asked for several more pictures, saying that the deadline is this Sunday, May 18th, or that I owe him more.. I want this to end, but I can't bring myself to actually tell anybody else, save for my three friends whom I've told them about the situation. But even they don't know it's gotten this deep.. ...is there no way for me to get rid of him, without my parents finding out? Is there no way....?Please.. I need help.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Dear anon, your post has worried me... please put in your own post and explain your situation.
We never heard from the lady again, but we hope, as her last message said that she is on her way to the police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): I hope you are still around this website.
I am in a situation almost identical, although he is threatening to release the pictures if I don't continue to role play with him...
Please tell me what you did, or how you got away.
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reader, elizabethanita  +, writes (30 May 2009):
My Dear,
It is very brave of you to post this help message. My advice to you is first go to the police station and tell them everything!! and I mean everything. This is for your safety as well as the safety of other potential victims. They will do everything to ensure that this man is caught. It is easy for the police to do a computer image of your computer and they can track where these messages are coming from. If you do not notify the authorities then you run the risk of endangering yourself and your family. Predators know that as long as you are in fear they have you! A similar incident happened to me-so I am speaking from experience. It may seem difficult to tell your parents but understand they love you and would be devestated to learn that you could not go to them. There also are sexual assault centers in various towns and cities that could provide councelling and professioal adive to assist you. Please go to the police first-He may be doing this to other girls and women.
Sincerely,
Elizabethanita
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reader, leyan  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hi Elusive Eyes,
Hope you are ok, we are all thinking of you and hoping you are safe.
I am sure I can speak for everyone here, we will be checking on you every day, hoping you wrote something.
Take care and God bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Sorry about that... Stupid computer
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Sorry about that... Stupid computer
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Sorry about that... Stupid computer
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I agree WastedLife (what a name) she knows we care about her and she knows that we are worried about her safety, she's been in touch before, she'll probably be in touch again.
We can only trust that she has listened and knows to do the right thing. Like you say, she probably has difficulty accessing the PC and will soon be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I agree WastedLife (what a name) she knows we care about her and she knows that we are worried about her safety, she's been in touch before, she'll probably be in touch again.
We can only trust that she has listened and knows to do the right thing. Like you say, she probably has difficulty accessing the PC and will soon be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I agree WastedLife (what a name) she knows we care about her and she knows that we are worried about her safety, she's been in touch before, she'll probably be in touch again.
We can only trust that she has listened and knows to do the right thing. Like you say, she probably has difficulty accessing the PC and will soon be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I agree WastedLife (what a name) she knows we care about her and she knows that we are worried about her safety, she's been in touch before, she'll probably be in touch again.
We can only trust that she has listened and knows to do the right thing. Like you say, she probably has difficulty accessing the PC and will soon be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I agree WastedLife (what a name) she knows we care about her and she knows that we are worried about her safety, she's been in touch before, she'll probably be in touch again.
We can only trust that she has listened and knows to do the right thing. Like you say, she probably has difficulty accessing the PC and will soon be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): I agree WastedLife (what a name) she knows we care about her and she knows that we are worried about her safety, she's been in touch before, she'll probably be in touch again.
We can only trust that she has listened and knows to do the right thing. Like you say, she probably has difficulty accessing the PC and will soon be in touch.
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (19 May 2008):
I realize everyone here is a concerned about ElusiveEyes. I would suggest that we trust that she has done the right thing, and quite possibly has just turned off the PC and is not writing to anyone. I do hope that she got help from either the police or someone old enough to help. If the police did get involved and talked to her parents, she might be banned from using the computer at all. Let's all just trust and pray that she is safe.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (19 May 2008):
 okay aunts and uncles, I live in Hawaii, 3 hours behind California.
and still have heard nothing from this girl. I'm worried. Hope all is well with you, elusive eyes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): I think you should worry more about "El Creepo" finding you. Call the cops and tell your parents. It might be embarassing beyond belief, but it's better to be alive and embarassed instead of dead(and your parents would still find out what happened).
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Hi little warrior. I know it's a big day today. It's sunday lunchtime over here in the UK. Are You Ok. We're all worried about you. Please get in touch. Whatever you decide to do is ok for you, it's ok for us. We care, we're here to help. Please get in touch and tell us what is going on, we're worried about you.
Your strong little warrior, you've survived so much, you can survive this too. Please get in touch and tell us what's going on. We understand, we care, we'll support you no matter what you decide to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): Yes please tell us that you've gone for help!! This is so concerning to us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): We are all very worried about you. Please tell us if you contacted the police and if you are OK now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Sorry, Lazyman, there's a time lag on the system. I understand posting in haste/misreading (I do it all the time). As I said you've given very good advice and I'm sure ElusiveEyes has heard us all and is now making plans to go to the police and get this "Pervert" nailed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): A message to Lazyman (apt name)
Your entitled to you opinion, and you've given this lady some good advice. But if you read carefully through her post and some of the posts below you should realise that most people on the board can see the seriousness of the situation. Not only is the young lady being frightened by by a sick sexual pervet, but she has admitted that her parents have fractured her ribs for bad grades/boyfriends.
She dosen't need your amature psychological analysis. She needs support and encouragement, to stop this man. You don't know her situation. The majority of people that have responded believe that she has been abused. Telling an abused child that she is a "drama queen" who is imaging the beatings her parents give her is unlikely to convince her that she needs to tell an adult about the situation.
What if she is being hurt, what if she really is as terrified of her parents as she has explained to us. Could you live with yourself if due to your actions she fails to get the help she needs.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 May 2008):
 I agree with LazyGuy 100%; he has hit all the concerns you may have right on the head!
Get yourself on the phone to the police NOW!!!!
YOU ARE IN DANGER!
This man knows where you live and cannot be trusted to just 'go away.' He has to be dealt with immediately.
The rest of your concerns are valid but honestly, you are a juvenile and anything to do with this would be kept confidential within the framework of the judicial system.
CALL THE POLICE NOW!!!!!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Sorry, yes I mis-read. Posted too soon but my excuse is that I want to get across that you really need to talk to the police. Quickly.
This guy really sounds dangerous. The bit about him leaving a note on your door is scary as hell.
Please, go to the police and just accept what might or might not happen because a person who hunts down an underage girl on the net and follows her to her house might not stop.
As for what happens with the pictures. If they are nudes, they are child-porn, they will be treated that way, in a court case they will be shown to the people involved in the trial but that is all. They will NOT get out through the legal system. They are illegal material and will only continue to exist as part of the evidence but sealed.
As for roleplaying with him, no that does not make you guilty in anyway. A bit stupid, sure, but not guilty. He is the adult, he should know better. You did NOT invite him to blackmail you or follow you to your house.
As for college and work. If you take this to the police, you are the victim, not the criminal. Unless the US got a very weird legal system you won't show up in any searches. Nobody will even know this has happened outside your family and the people involved. A college or future employer who does a background check on you will see NOTHING.
Even those who find out will be on your side. The only negative thing I said was because I want you be more afraid of this guy then your own parents.
Let me be honest, if I came home and found a note from a stranger on the door pressuring me to do anything I would have called 911 (well 112). There is no telling how far he will go. Please, be less afraid of what others might think (everyone her has been supportive so far, that should tell you something) and be more afraid of what a guy who blackmails teens over the net and drives long distance to threaten you.
Basically, what do I or anyone else need to do to get you to call the cops NOW!
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reader, ElusiveEyes +, writes (16 May 2008):
ElusiveEyes is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for the advices, everybody.. I've blocked him on MSN, and have not answered his calls. He left two voicemails reminding me of the 'deadline'..but I don't have to worry about that, right? As long as I go to the police and inform them of the situation..[LazyGuy]You seemed to have misread my saying, and you've clearly gotten a "wrong" impression of me. My dad did not actually see the pictures. As I said, I LIED to him, meaning the blackmailer, as an excuse to not have any further contact with him for some time, without him overreacting and getting wired up, which could trigger yet another visit from him which I, personally, do not ever want.There are a few things that still bug me though....The fact that I've role-played along with him in the beginning at the chatroom.. does that make me somewhat responsible for having this happen?And.. if I do indeed go to the police and report to them, and special matters are taken to arrest this man.. the pictures he has of me.... what happens to them?I certainly don't want them to hold me back.I graduate in two years, and when I apply for colleges, jobs, and the alike.. do I have to worry about them haunting me?
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (16 May 2008):
This guy sounds dangerous. Really dangerous and I suggest you waste no time in going to the police with everything you got as evidence and tell them the whole story.
Yes, this means your parents will find out about it. The police most likely will want to attempt to catch this guy and a sting operation seems fairly easy to setup considering his actions so far.
The police are well used to dealing with situations where kids are more frightened of their parents then the trouble they are in. They heard it all before and when you tell them about your home background they will most likely send someone to talk with your parents to sort it all out.
Frankly, your father saw "those pictures" on your PC and you are still alive? I am presuming those pictures feature nudity of some such. You are still alive? Not kicked out of the house, not disowned? Exactly how "bad" are you parents supposed to be anyway? Frankly I am getting the impression that you are just another teen who pretends their parents are monsters. Fear them?
I hate to say this but just how much of this is you being a drama queen? Not the blackmailing, the possible reaction of your family.
Anyway, you don't really got a choice, if you ignore this this guy WILL BE BACK, because you are an easy target. Sexual predators COUNT on their victims being afraid to be found out, unable to talk to those who can stop the predator.
Collect what evidence you got, go to the police, explain what happened and explain your situation at home and let things be resolved. If you don't, you just end up deeper and deeper into trouble. By sending him images you have only given him more blackmail material.
Remember, that YOU are the victim here and he is the criminal.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 May 2008):
This is a very scary situation and I'm so sorry you find yourself in it. I hope that you can tell your parents, but I can see why you're afraid to. This is a really tough situation to be in.
I can only offer these as a source of help for you.
Contact your state attorney general's office and tell them what's been happening. You can find yours on this link:
http://www.naag.org/ag/full_ag_table.php
You could also look at the following link to see if you want to report your situation there:
http://www.cybertipline.com/
Their number is 800-843-5678.
Those are part of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
Good luck and be brave, do what you need to do to protect yourself from this evil person.
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (16 May 2008):
 This guy sounds like he could be trouble and you need more than anything to protect yourself... Like others have said you need to talk to the police and give them any information you have on this man he's stalking you and that's illegal.
Tell him you don't care if he tells your parents and that you have informed the police. Do not have any more contact with this creep and block him on your msn.
I'm only sorry you feel that you cannot confide in you parents as I feel you need an adult to put a stop to this, this man is taking advantage of you because you are young and vunerable. Is there not someone else other than your friends you can confide in like a teacher?
Please tell someone before this guy gets out of control, I bet you are not the only female he is doing this to.
Don't worry what anyone else thinks, protect yourself....
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): there is a good chance that this man is all mouth and no action, but you cant risk that. Go to the police, tell them exactly what you told us. Tell them you dont want to tell your parents and they may be able to help you. you'll never know unless you try. Don't put up with it. You know what you did wrong, we are all human, and we all make mistakes, learn from them. Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok, its not the end =D
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (16 May 2008):
Girl, Looks like your stuck between a rock and a hard place. I cant tell you what this freak is thinking, but as for your parents, you have options. You NEVER need to put up with that kind of abuse from them. Here in America, parents go to jail for spanking their children. I'm sure you love them, but right now, you need protection, and it dosnt sound like they will give it to you. THIS GUY COULD KILL YOU. What is your life worth to you? Like everyone is telling you, it is important to contact athorities, and there is a good chance they will set up a sting, and catch him. Its seriously illegal what he is doing to you, and he will end up in prison for a long time. I'm worried for your safty from your parents though. Please, if you still feel comfertable on the computer, keep in touch, let us know you're ok. All my love. PS, if you need anything, Im here, and so are all the aunts and uncles, I'm sure we all would do what we can. Good luck.
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reader, bday121 +, writes (16 May 2008):
 What this creep doing is illegal. I know you're afraid of your parents, but take the advice all the other posters have said. You need to break off contact with the guy immediately. If you keep in contact with him the situation will only escalate. Soon he will be asking for full nude pictures, then phone sex, then real sex, and he'll likely rape you if you don't give in. Ignore him and then go to the police. He came to your house and that probably qualifies as stalking and trespassing. He's also haboring underage pornography (the pics you sent) on his computer. These alone are enough charges for him to be thrown in jail, let alone the blackmailing as well. PLEASE, please, go to the police. Tell them exactly what has happened, give them ALL of this guy's contact information, all the conversations you two have had, and tell them anything and everything you know about this guy. What he's doing is sick and disgusting and should NOT be tolerated. He deserves to rot in jail!!!
I know you're afraid of your parents, and you should be, considering that they are abusive. But the situation that you're in is very serious. A man is blackmailing and stalking you and being sexually aggressive. Your parents love you and they want to help you. Surely their first concern in this matter is your safety. You don't have to tell them right off, go to the police first. But when they find out I really don't think they'll be as angry as you think they will. More than likely they'll be terrified for your safety and angry as hell at this pervert. A life-threatening situation is very different from bad grades.
For another point, this creep is way more afraid than you think he is. He has a very flimsy blackmailing point indeed. The very worst he can do to blackmail you is go to your parents, and he knows that. Trust me, this guy will NEVER go see your parents to tell them what's going on. Why? Because he knows your parents will beat the crap out of him and then hand him over to the police. Don't believe his lies. This man has nothing to hold over you. You should fear him, though, because he has your address and he could kindnap/physically harm you if he wanted...and that's exactly why you need to go to the police. (Just think about how many other girls might be in your same situation with this man, and how many you'll save by reporting him!)
Also, it seems like you're blaming yourself for this situation. Stop! Sure, you made a mistake, but that mistake does not entitle this man to abuse you. What he's doing is WRONG and you needn't feel ashamed. He's blackmailing you and scaring you to get what he wants. That's happened to thousands of men and women all over the world. It's not your fault that he's abusing you! HE's the wrongdoer, HE's the pervert, HE's the one who needs to be ashamed, not you! The only thing you did was have some poor judgement, and you can fix that mistake and this whole situation by reporting him to the police.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Hi,
firstly he is not confident about blackmailing you because he will be able to talk to your parents. Unless he is the biggest fool in the world, if he talked to your parents they will go to the police and he will be locked up in jail. Do you really think he wants this? And what on earth will he tell your parents? If I was a parent and a stranger came round and said my daughter was sending him pictures of herself I would grab my baseball bat and beat 7 types of shit out of him - then call the police. Any father would.
As for going to the police yourself, they may tell your parents but I still believe if you can talk to a female officer one on one you should be able to get a guarantee from her that she will not tell your parents unless you actually press charges.
This guy just needs to be scared away, do you know a man you can trust to talk to this guy? If it was me I wouldnt hesitate to call him and tell him what will happen to him if he comes within 5 miles of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Hi ElusiveEyes,
He's a blackmailer, he's got as much to loose as you. He's trying to frighten you (and he's doing a good job) What's he gonna tell your parents. I've been blackmailing your daughter and she's refusing to cooperate. If you tell your teacher exactly what you told us (including the fractured ribs) their gonna be as carefull dealing with you, as we are all trying to be.
I know your scared of your parents honey, but at least you know what their capable of. This man is an unknown entity, you don't know how far he will go. He's got pictures of your ass.... I'll put money on it that requests for sex and money are not far behind. I don't want this for you, no matter how scared you are of your parents. They can't kill you, they'll have to explain if you go missing.
I'm so angry that your in this situation. You need to tell somebody. It's not fair for you to be so frightened. You got to get some courage little warrior. You gotta tell... You can't allow your parents, this little shit piece of man to continue hurting your. It's not right.... Tell somebody with authority, tell the police, tell your teacher..... You need someone to help, you need somewhere safe to be... You need to stop being scared all the time.
TELL SOMEBODY YOU TRUST, EVERYTHING YOU'VE TOLD US.
All abusers, this stupid man, your parents only hurt you because there's nobody to protect you. We can't protect you, cause we live far away, we don't know who you are. If you lived near me, I'd tell you to come over and I'd take you to the police station myself. I WANT YOU SAFE and for that I need you to be strong... Stop protecting everyone else and start protecting yourself.
TELL SOMEBODY YOU TRUST, EVERYTHING YOU'VE TOLD US.
I've sent you a quick note, please, please, please keep in touch.
You need to sort this out before he turns up at your house, and your parents become suspicious. No matter what you do their going to find out. Prepare yourself for that time by making sure that you have somebody who can protect you if anything happens.
YOU CANNOT STOP THIS MAN BY GIVING INTO HIS DEMANDS. YOUR JUST GIVING HIM MORE THINGS TO BLACKMAIL YOU WITH.
Tell somebody whats going on with this man and with your parents. Make yourself safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Contact the police, immediately. Screw whatever your parents will think, it's time you grew up and stopped being afraid of them anyway; it's minor what they'll do to you (your parents), so what if they yell/hit/whatever, even if you're scared, it's better than having some dude stalk you over the internet. You don't know who this is, or what he's thinking. Just call the police, get help, tell your parents, SOMETHING other than giving in to demands from some stranger on the net.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Just for your information, it is a Federal offense in the United States to pose threats via the internet or telephone across state lines... and you implied that he drove across the country to leave this note on our front door. If needs be, it could be an issue for the FBI to investigate (and I'm not kidding here).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): http://www.perverted-justice.com/
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reader, ElusiveEyes +, writes (16 May 2008):
ElusiveEyes is verified as being by the original poster of the question[Collaroy]
If I do go to the police, and "tell her if this gets back to my parents I fear for my life"... will they really not tell my parents? It's just that, I'd do anything to keep this away from my parents' knowledge. One of the three friends I've told told me that she thinks this guy is aware of this, and is probably why he's 'confident'. Is this true?
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reader, ElusiveEyes +, writes (16 May 2008):
ElusiveEyes is verified as being by the original poster of the question[Diovan Lestat]
Am I just to avoid him for the time being then?
But I'm scared and nervous about the fact that he'll come again if I ignore him, but this time, actually when my parents are home.
If I tell my teacher or guidance counselor.. won't they inform my parents?
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (16 May 2008):
Hi,
sorry to see this. It looks like you have two problems. Abusive parents and a control freak.
Firstly, culture or not, there is not excuse for abusing your children, I really am sick of seeing people hiding behind religious or cultural beliefs as an excuse to abuse their siblings. The best thing you can do is when you are old enough get a job and move out of your parents home and gain some independence.
But the issue at hand is this man. Look he is never going to stop unless you take it somewhere else. Personally I would go to the police , see if you can talk to a female officer and explain your situation. Tell her if this gets back to your parents you fear for your life. The police are always interested in blackmail and will have some very good ideas what to do with this guy. Depending on what state you live in you could even be underage. If he is demanding this stuff of you and you are underage he has a lot to be worried about. Go to the police or if you have an adult family friend you trust try them first.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Thanks collaroy, if I had your patience, then I would learn to wait and give better advice.
ElusiveEyes, I'm sorry but my advice was wrong. I thought I was dealing with normal traditional parents. If you been hurt by your parents then turning to them would not be a sensible thing to do. Talk to a teacher at school about the whole thing, including the fractured rib from your parents. Your in a very dangerous position and can no longer continue dealing with this situation on your own. But please have no futher contact with this man.
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reader, gayuncleandy +, writes (16 May 2008):
 If you continue to follow his demands then he will demand more. Firstly, stop going online to this site and onto MSN. Secondly, do not send him anything and if he calls tell him you have called the police and hang up. Thirdly, tell at least one of your friends the gravity of the situation (Is there a family member, not a parent who you can tell?). If the worst happens your parents will find out anyway. Do not let this man control you any more. If you feel unsafe, don't hesitate in telling your parents, at least you know what to fear. Perhaps you could also talk to the school guidance counsellor confidentially for more advice. Hang in there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): STOP SENDING HIM PICTURES IMMEDIATELY..... You never, ever give into a blackmailer, NEVER.
You made a mistake, dumb, but a simple mistake. How old are you 16 - 17. You say your parents are very traditional asians who are likely to be very upset by this and punish you. Well, you made a mistake and are old enough to take the punishment.
You need to tell you parents what is going on, before things get any worse. I don't know what kind of pictures you sent him but it dosen't matter. Tell your parents, take the punishment and get rid of this man once and for all. What can they do, kill you, beat you, nag you to death. Whatever, happens it's better than being under the thumb of a little runt like him. Imagine yourself telling him, do your worse, I'm not afraid of you any longer. I've told my parents and I'll tell the police if you don't leave me alone. Imagine yourself telling him that the police are looking for him because your under age and your parents think he's a pedophile.
Be brave, be a strong warrior and get rid of this chump once and for all.
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reader, ElusiveEyes +, writes (16 May 2008):
ElusiveEyes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, [Collaroy].The guy first blackmailed me a couple of times saying that if I didn't either pick up my cell, or that if I start ignoring him, he'll personally drive over here to the Eastern side of America for me. To be honest, I thought he was bluffing the first few times, but I was afraid and didn't want to really take any risk. So I picked up my cell, and started going on MSN on a daily basis.There was one week where I kept ignoring his IMs, and he actually DID come to where I live. At least, I strongly believe it was him. I live about a mile or so from my school, so it's a good walking distance. It was a Thursday, and I started heading home around 4:30, 5:00, after a club meeting. When I got home, on my front door was a note that said "be on the computer at 7", and signed his name. [I still have it] Thankfully, my parents didn't come home early that day.So now I know his threats aren't just bluffs. He's been blackmailing me the past few weeks for some pictures of my rear exposed. I sent him two or three, but in none of them did I show my face. He said I took them wrongly, and demanded that I take several more in certain positions...Last time I talked to him was on Tuesday when he made that demand. I just logged right now, more scared than I had honestly ever been. I e-mailed him at school the next day lying that my father had seen those pictures on my camera, and took away both my cell and laptop. I have him blocked on MSN, but he sent an IM before I did that my 'deadline' was this Sunday, and that he expected more pictures... otherwise, "I owe him more"..I want to get out of this mess, but I can't have my parents find out. I've gotten fractured ribs from them for getting low grades, and hugging boys in the open.. If they find this out, God only knows what they'd do. Disown me? Make me paralize? Gah.. what have I done...?
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reader, MinisterWhite +, writes (16 May 2008):
 I tell you what tell him you are a teenager 13 years of age and you do not want him getting into trouble with the law so it is best for him not to contact you ever again and to just trash the address and phone number. Peace and Blessings...
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (16 May 2008):
Hi,
sorry I have no idea what you are talking about.
You do not say anything apart from that he is asking you to send him pictures. Why? you dont say.
Please read your question before posting it, we can only help if we know what he is blackmailing you about.
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