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*tupidCupid1
writes:MOD NOTE: Aunts/Uncles PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL IN YOUR ANSWERS!!!I am writing to ask a question in hopes to get answers that will be helpful and constructive, not judgemental and deconstructive. I unfourtantely got involved with a married but " separated" man. Obviously this is a problem, i have also unfourtantely fallen in love with him. My question is this, is there anyone out there with advice to help me to stay away from him, fall out of love, get over this, get away from this situation ? I am trying desperately, it's not good for me, i know this, but i am having such a hard time controlling my urges to call and to be with him. He is separated, live seperatly , have plans to divorce after house sells( just got an offer). I need this to be over, and i need help navigating my way through leaving someone i am in love with but can't have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): Cut off contact, and focus on his negative traits. Magnify his negative traits in your mind, and try to really convince yourself that he is has a horrible personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): If this guy is really leaving his wife and you trust him why not wait him out?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 February 2011):
 Time and space. Time and space. You need to cut all contact if you want this to be over. That's your only option.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 February 2011):
Do it all step by step.
1 - Tell him it's over. Do this in a cafe, or somewhere where you can get away so he can't make a scene. Also have a friend (if possible) nearby, so if he does make a scene, your friend can come and take you away.
2 - Get rid of all photos, letters, objects that he got you.
3 - Cut contact - delete phone numbers, block him on email/facebook etc.
4 - Tell your friends/anyone else that it's over and that you need time to get over him, so can they be supportive of you.
5 - Spend as much time as you can out the house doing things, working, finding new friends/hobbies. Anything you can. Just don't sit around next to the phone.
Hopefully, you'll be able to spend time by yourself getting over him. And be strong too! Being alone isn't bad, but being desperate is, so make sure you don't become so desperate that you go back.
Good luck.
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