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*lackWolf1972
writes:My bestfreind that was in an abusive marriege with a man,so then she turns to wemon,and she said she was gay,we meet while we are both broken hearted,and i get to know her,and we become bestfreinds,we have slept together,on more than one occasion,and i fell for her,she has told me that if she was not gay we would be a couple,and so this goes on for a couple of years,mean while i've been sending her money,and driveing her from state to state,making sure she always has what she needs,being her bestfreind,and she has told me that she would marry me,yet never does,she says she loves me,but she is not in love with me then we move in together as room mates,hopeing she will see that we are good together,but she never see that,and she has a girlfreind live with us,then she got hurt by this girlfreind,emotionaly,and then befreind a guy,well she startes to date him,and said she has fallin for him, and now thinks he is the one,yet while i'm here helping with the bills and the children,she tells me i will never have a chance with her. we are bestfreinds ,and nothing more and she knows i fell for her,while at the same time she dates this guy,and says i will never have a chance with her,but yet she wants me to stick around to help with the bills,and watch the kids when she goes out with him,don.t know what to do at this point,i still love her,do i go,or do i stay,and watch her be with some one else other than me?
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reader, BlackWolf1972 +, writes (11 February 2011):
BlackWolf1972 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell,thank you guys for your thoughts,i feel realy stupide,because even though she is hanging out with other guys,and by the way the guy she fell for has hurt her already,and i can't seem to do anything but stay and try to pick up the peaces,i love her so much i can see her fall
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): Hon, you really have to think this through. Do YOU think it's right that she's with some OTHER guy and YOU are paying the bills? Honestly I don't think she was ever gay int the first place. I think she was so hurt by this man that she thought that if she was gay she would never get hurt like that again. Perhaps you really are the one for her, or perhaps you aren't. Let time work it out, Hon.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 I think that the best thing you can do is to move out and find a place yourself, as if you stay it is only going to hurt you more. You fell for her but she has only ever saw you as a friend, and am guessing she had sex with you in the past as she was in a very vunerable place after coming out of an abusive marriage.
You need to get out of that house move in to your own place and keep your distance from her until your heart heals. She knows how you feel about her yet she hurts you by telling you she wants to be with someone else but also wants you to stay. This is very selfish on her part and she is wanting both of best worlds. Dont be a slave to her anymore, move out and get on with your own life. Goodluck.
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