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reader, adele +, writes (18 June 2006):
Hello to you, i read afraid , i am sad to see this. what questions do you ned to ask her ? are you young and in need of some guidance that you feel you want your mum to support you, but are unsure how to approach her?, Mum's are not all the same , but usually if they are needed their is nothing stronger than the love and support of your mother, if it is delicate, it will be awkward, but you will get through it , and your mum will help you along, i have a feeling it is a question your Mum may know you are going to ask ? is this why you are afraid of her reaction, and maybe the consequences of the answer, the love will bing it together that you share , have faith in her, and your self . good luck , with your dilema
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (11 June 2006):
 Are you asking because you're afraid of her reaction? Does she just scare you normally?
If you're wondering because you don't want to share new feelings or changes with her, that's perfectly normal. Most teens get a bit secretive about their lives and don't want their parents to know about boyfriends/girlfriends or to talk about the physical changes that happen.
However, if you don't want to talk to her because she rages about insignificant things, or judges you badly, or says unnecessarily harsh things about you (things like "you're stupid" or "you're ugly"), then no, it's not a surprise that you don't want to talk with her.
In other words, Yes, it's normal not to want to share all the details of your life, but you shouldn't shut her out completely. There are a lot of bits of wisdom that a person learns as they get older, and you can benefit by knowing some of those things, if you let your mum help sometimes.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (10 June 2006):
 It is perfectly natural not to want to tell your parents personal stuff sometimes, and to be a little scared of them...I am 34 and my mother still scares the hell out of me! However, if you don't have a great relationship with your Mum then you should find (if you don't have) an appropriate role-model adult (sibling?) who you can trust and get advice from when you need to. You should always tell your Mum really serious stuff because as I have recently learned...family secrets have a nasty habit of creeping up on you at unexpected times to bite you on the b*m. She may rant about whatever you have done, but you must know that is because she loves you/ is disappointed with you but parental love is usually unconditional at the end of the day!
You also have to be honest with yourself - are you scared of telling your mother things that you have done that are really bad (in which case it is probably your own conscience that is getting to you, rather than her reaction), or is it just a bad relationship?
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