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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi people. I moved out of a property 2 months ago due to the owner's adult kid harassing me. He made false accusations against me and was going through something at the time. I never made a big deal of the situation but I avoided talking to him. I knew he wasn't okay in his head. Then when his parents where away, he waited and watched me leave one morning and followed me out the door demanding payment for rent. It was scary. He proceeded to send messages accusing me of refusing to pay rent and lying about leaving it and threatened to have me evicted. I immediately took my belongings from the property and left. I always paid my bills and left a note apologising to the owners and left my keys. I received a message yesterday asking to return as he has left the property. I didn't feel safe there. It was more for the convenience. There isn't much else available in the area. Should I got back? Should I follow him for harassment?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (30 April 2020):
 Do NOT go back. If he's the owner's son, then he can return at any time, and while the landlord may be aware his son is a problem, at the end of the day, blood is thicker than water.
Their loyalty will be to themselves and him before it will be to you.
Stay away from all of them. Don't get sucked into giving explanations or an ongoing dialogue.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (29 April 2020):
 I definitely would not go back. Your safety and peace of mind is of utmost importance. Convenience, in this case, does not matter.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 April 2020):
 What exactly does "he has left the property" mean? They threw him out? He had a tantrum and stormed out? He left because he has decided to move elsewhere? There is no saying he will not come back. Imagine how uncomfortable that would be.
I suppose it depends how desperate you are. Seems a rather high price to pay for "convenience".
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2020): Do NOT go back. The owner's son will always be around, even if it is just to "visit" his parents. So for your safety, don't ever go back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2020): I would not go back.I would also file charges.Who knows maybe he has done this before and has a record.Maybe he needs to live in hospital but since no one reports him he does not and hurts someone.What if he hurts his elderly parents? You must report this....even if nothing comes of it because in the future he might do it again and your report could help there.Do not go back...report it.
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (27 April 2020):
 Do not go back under any circumstances. I would cut all ties and block them from being able to contact you. I think going back could be a huge mistake and at the very worst you could even be putting your life at risk since the son doesn't sound like he's all there. Stay away! I know this has been a very unsettling experience and I hope that you have found a safe and peaceful place to live. Your home should always be your sanctuary..a safe place to be. You would never feel safe if you went back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2020): DO NOT RETURN UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!!!
As long as that property belongs to those people, you will not be safe there! If they had any control over their son; you never would have experienced that incident in the first place. All they're thinking of is the money.
I hope you found a nice place where you feel safe and comfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2020): I agree with FA and HP only want to add one thing, do you have any prove that you have paid your rents and you handed over the property intact, just in case the parents want to cause trouble for you for leaving in their absence. What type of people are they? I suggest you talk to them and settle things with them and explain to them that you have no desire to go back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2020): Who needs this type of unnecessary stress, from strangers or acquaintances not even family. go back at your peril and you will always have this stress one way or another. Stay free and be thankful you are not trapped by family ties. Absolutely stay clear and free and live in a peaceful calm environment.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 April 2020):
 I have to agree with FA,
Do NOT go back. I think the son TRIED to "scam" his parents by asking you for the rent in cash and when you said no, he threatened you. Who is to say he won't be back? The parents might have kicked him out but that doesn't mean he can't or won't show up. OR that they won't feel bad for him and let him come back.
Keep look for something else. Your HOME, whether rental or owned should FEEL safe. This is NOT a safe place nor will it ever feel that way to you.
When you say "should I follow him for harassment" do you mean pressing charges? If so, I don't think you have any real proof - unless... you kept the messages,texts and his parents will back you up in the fact that he did NOT have any rights to collect rent. However, they might know things aren't "right" with him but they probably won't support a claim of harassment against him.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 April 2020):
 No. Don't go back.
My understanding is that your rent was paid up when this happened. I also understand that the adult son had been acting unusually.
It just doesn't sound safe to me.
Seeking immediate cash.
An area with few available rentals, but thy are asking you to return.
False accusations, and threats.
Don't bother filing charges, you need more evidence.
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