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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months now, we have a great relationship and i love him loads.A couple of weeks ago i started noticing little lumps down below and i think i may have a STD or something (its quite sore and the skins gone bumpy around my vagina)Ive got an appointment this week so im getting it checked out.The thing i want to know is, does this mean he has cheated on me, as i have never slept with anyone else? Or is there another way i could have gotten this?I really hope he has stayed faithful but im ready for your replies and what you think.Thanks
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reader, cursed4life  +, writes (27 March 2009):
If it is infact an STD and he is your first, then with out a doubt he is/has cheated on you.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (23 January 2008):
My ex had a similar problem over xmas and really put pressure on me if i had been cheating on her and turned out she was da one who cheated on me so sometimes our partners can endager our lives because we trust them too much.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): If it is a std then he may have cheated on you or he may have had an std already before you met him.
But since you have been with him for 9 months and you have just now started showing symptoms of a possible std, if it is a std, depending on what it turns out to be is how you will be able to determine if he cheated or not. For instance, some std's manifest themselves only about 1-2 weeks after you have contracted them. In this case, you would be almost certain that he probably did cheat. On the other hand, some std's can lay dormant in your body for a long time before you have symptoms. In this case, it is possible that he already had it when you met him and the symptoms just didn't come out till now. Just let your doctor know about this and ask your doctor what is the most likely possibility based on what you may have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): Hi there..
Speaking from experience... Cold sores on your mouth is also std..and if he had any on his month, and went down on you then yes, you may very well develop viginal std from forplay.
So no, it doesn't mean he cheated on you.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (23 January 2008):
If you do have an STD then yeah he may of cheated on you. Another possible reason could be that he was infected before he met you and either didnt tell you or he didnt know about it himself. Did he ever get an STD check before you both slept together? Did you at first use a condom for protection and then stop?
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 January 2008):
 It could be so many different things. Do you shave down below? Could it be bumps cause by a razor burn? If you've changed soaps, or something that has come in contact that causes irritation. I would wait to see the doctor before placing blame or thinking he did something he may not have done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): You have to be so careful. Did you have protected sex at first? He may of brought something along to this relationship and it just hasnt cleared up, so it doesnt mean that he has been unfaithful with you, just that he wasnt totally clear of STD's when you got together. Get checked out first before you shout, but do have a word with him. If you do have something then he will have to know and treated as well.
take care
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reader, Sams_WonderWoman +, writes (23 January 2008):
 That's good that you have a doctors appointment. That will put your mind at ease. But how you explained it, it sounds to me that you might have infected hairs that are bumpy and they hurt. If you shave the hair down there, it could be bumps from the razor. Sometimes the laundry soap, toilet paper, etc that you may be using could cause some irritation or your panties could be rubbing you the wrong way (just as a baby's diapers does). Did you know that if you have a cold sore on your mouth, you could transfer it to your vaginal area...that is if you don't wash your hands after touching the cold sore. It then becomes genital herpes. If your boyfriend has a cold sore on his mouth and preforms oral sex on you....you will get it too. So avoid being intimate on those days.
Please let me know how your doctors appointment goes. Good luck and God bless you!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 STD is only through sexual contacts with another person. It cannot survive outside the body.You can get it only through sexual intercourse.
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