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writes:i split up with a girl after 2 years and the day i moved my stuff out a freind from 20 years ago called and we thought it would be fun to hang , well we fell in love, i think, anyway all wa great for 9 or 10 months and then i realized i was not looking at her the same and it was like i did not love her any more.basically here is my question, how is it that i can just quit feeling the same as i did, it kinda makes ya feel that either it wasnt true or maybe i expect it to stay all brand new like it is in the beginning of the relationship..is that also possible, can ya continue that feeling in your stomach every time ya hear her voice and see her or does it go away..thanks
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Relationships grow and change each time you move up a gear. You can't expect ANY relationship to maintain those initial feelings of anticipation, nervousness, excitement and whatever else forever.
At first, you might get funny feelings in your stomach when you say nice things to each other, the first time you hold hands, tell each other you love them, the first time you kiss, the first time you have sex.
These feelings do fade. That doesn't mean these experiences are any less than what they were in the beginning. This is NORMAL.
If you expect your relationship to stay the same as it was in those early stages forever, you are going to jump from one relationship to the next in search of soemthing that doesn't exist. Eventually, you'll learn from this and be ready to settle down.
Maybe this is an indication you're not ready to settle down just yet?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 You cannot have an intense relationship forever. Sooner or later you will get tired of it and it becomes stale. You want fresh and new challenges.That is only human.
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