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writes:Ok. Some people are probably going to ignore this question. So, I`ll ask that you just stick around to hear my ENTIRE story. *sigh*I fell in love, and that sounds cliche. But, as we all know, everything does, and, it`s true. I love him so much. We have been the best of friends. He and I are so close and I`m happy. But... he has a girlfriend. And, I dont think she feels like I do. I mean, she just wants him for his looks. I want him for who he really is. I want him so badly and I cry every night that he can`t relize it. Please. Help me.
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reader, cupid77 +, writes (24 February 2009):
 He has a girlfriend. Be his friend. And for now, only his friend. Someday they will break up, and since you are such good friends, you will be there for him. At that time things might work out wonderfully for the two of you. If you are the cause of their break up, your relationship will not be as strong because you caused the break up and he will hold that against you in the end. If they were not meant to be, he needs to realize that on his own. Not by you talking bad about her, or by you seducing him. If he cheats on her because of you, when he is with you, there is a chance he will cheat on you. Don't introduce him to the world of cheating because once someone cheats, they excuse it for future relationships easier then someone who has been faithful, so you will only be hurting yourself in the end. Be patient if you want it to work. If you are really crying about him then you need to hang out with him less until he is single. Spend some more time with friends. Your absence might cause him to miss you more and realize what he could have with you.
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reader, didda123  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 I think you have really answered your own question.
As he already has a girlfriend he is not totally committed to either of you.
I know it is difficult but i would walk away from this one, nothing can possibily come of it when he is playing the two of you like this and by you walking away it may actually make him realize that he actually does miss you but by just letting him have the best of both worlds there will be no winners!
His relationship with the other girl cannot be fantastic or he wouldn't consider cheating on her so you may even be providing a crutch for their relationship to keep it going. I would bail out now, staying in this relationship is only going to hurt you more in the long run and stop you meeting someone who really deserves you.
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