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writes:Me and my husband have been married for just over a year and have been together since we were 16. We were each others firsts and used to really ennjoy sex. However, recently (past 4-5 months) I have found that our sex life is almost non existant. My husband doesn't want sex anymore. I've tried different things to help sort this problem out. I thought that maybe because we were living together he felt that sex wasn't sexy anymore, so I cooked his favourite meal, bought a sexy, slinky nightie and tried to seduce him. Nothing happened. We never had sex that night. I've even talked to him about it. When I asked him why he no longer wants to have sex, he asked me why I wanted it so much. He said that animals have sex to procreate, so why do I enjoy it so much. I don't know what to do? I love my husband but our sex life is dull. Its starting to make me feel old and i'm only in my 20s. Can I really last a lifetime of this? THanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): I am in the same boat. I still love my husband but I think I am still in love with an old friend of mine... who lives 8 hours away. My husband says he is still attracted to me but doesn't have the stennama for sex... he is 28 years old!!! I wish you luck. When you find out what to do please let me know.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 Yeah, that's not normal. Sex is an act of intimacy, and it can be enjoyed throughout your whole life. It's not something that everyone gives up on eventually, or stops enjoying. Something is up with him - and you need to get to the bottom of it. Sorry to bring it up, but if it happened suddenly, and he's not depressed for some reason, you might want to do a little snooping, like the previous writer said. If it's not another woman, it could be another man. But guys, especially young guys, don't give up on sex. And, if he is running around, then he might think that having sex with you is cheating on his current fling, hence the dry spell in your marriage. Do need to do some digging. Good Luck, Dear, and if you do love him, fight for him. XXX
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reader, Digiman  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 Great advice from "softtouchmale2003"! You deserve that level of intimacy! All I want to add is to note that your husband avoided your question by turning it around on you. Don't let him get away with that, as his wife you deserve a decent answer to your honest question!
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 You need to talk to him seriously and tell him that a marriage without intimacy is unworkable.You need sex and actual love making. Physical and emotional intimacy are basically the cornerstone of the marriage bonding process. Without that, your needs are not being met.Therefore, you need to look to him and tell him that you want a husband not a room mate.If he's still stubborn, go to counseling. Find out why he's turned away from you.Its possible he's seeing someone else and has decided not to have sex with you. Or, its possible he thinks you've been seeing someone else. The last possibility is that he's got some emotional issue that he's not sharing with you.Either way, good luck. But I agree with you. A sexless marriage is a lifetime prison sentence. It will destroy the marriage and you will eventually look outside of your relationship to find someone who will fulfill your needs for intimacy.
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