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writes:Ive been married for 10 yrs my husband has been a good man and provider.. Weve had our ups and downs. 2 years ago i met my first love on facebook and fell in love again and want to be with him but i feel real guilty over leaving. Familyn giving me a hard time too.. He loves me to death.. I love himfor being wity him for so long but im not in love with him. When i told him months ago i wanted a divorce he threatened suicide and then i felt bad and never persued it.. I think about my other man 24 7... Please help m
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): My first Ex told me I was dead if I divorced him...I went ahead and I am still here. I had to go ahead because I wasnt happy, for alot of reasons I had had enough. Nobody else involved but I had started thinking how other men could make me happier.
I think we are vulnerable when unhappy, look for some kind of escape.
Though I feel for him,your not responsible for your husbands life or happiness. However I would think long and hard about splitting, try everything if you haven't already, to see if you can make it work. This old friend of yours will seem attractive, he reminds you of when you were younger and carefree.Leave him out of the equasion for now, get your ducks in line before you even think of him.
Good luck x
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reader, kate28 +, writes (13 November 2011):
This might be more about being unhappy in your current relationship than about your first love. Have you tried counseling or anything else to work on your relationship with your husband?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011):
Simple advice:
It's easy to love someone over Facebook.
What makes you think that you won't be in this same situation 10 years from now (or less) with your first love?
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reader, goldengirl88  +, writes (13 November 2011):
HiIt is actually emotional abuse to threaten to kill yourself to make your spouse stay! I feel really sorry for your husband i do, and believe it or not when you leave it will cut like a knife and you will suffer more than you know.But something your husband needs to realise is that love not freely given is not love at all, you told him you want to go and be with the other man, and he threaten to kill himself, he needs to let you go!But you cant live your life for him you need to realise that your not resposible for his life and happiness he is, if he has made you the sole source of all future happiness, then that is not healthy and he seems like a very unhappy individual, and i think councelling would benefit him.Be kind to you! your not his motehr and are not responsible for his life!p.s Do you have any children?
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