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writes:I'm in love with my teacher.He's 27, 13 years older than I, and please don't say anything like, "It's not love, just a crush, an infatuation, forget about him." I've already tried, but no matter how hard I try, I can't forget him. He's like a drug. An addiction that I can't quit, no matter how hard I try. I'm always thinking about him, every second of the day, and when I see him, I get butterflies in my stomach and my heart literally skips beats. I've always been one for older men, and though I am a bit young, I've dated guys who are in their early 20s. I probably have no chance with him whatsoever, but I can't help but being a little bit hopeful ... To be honest, I think he might be slightly interested in me, as well. He's confusing me so much. Some days he'll be really friendly and flirtatious, and other days, he'll just nod at me and go off. He's sort of a loner, and doesn't really hang out with the other teachers. He usually goes off to eat lunch by himself, and I guess some would classify him as "unfriendly". He also does not smile often in class, but he's ALWAYS smiling when he sees me ...So does he like me, or does he not? :/
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reader, pinkfan101  +, writes (13 June 2009):
hi, i had the same prob. in the 7th grade. i fancied my maths teacher. dont worry. things like this happen ALL The tIME!! enjoy having a crush... enjoy drooling over him at night and having a good laugh with ur friends, crushes are fun!! just DONT ACT UPON IT! dont tell him coz this will make u feel realyy arkward around him and ull be 2 embarased 2 speak 2 him eva again.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Everything you described here sounds exactly like the position I am in.
I have also fallen for a teacher that is 13 years older than I. I am 18 and a senior in high school. He is 31 and married with one child. From what I can tell he is very happy in his marriage and he is such a genuinely sweet person. Everytime I see him my face kind of gets flushed and I get kind of shy. We have great conversations and we have so much in common.
It's a tough situation to be in, I can tell you that much. As much as I wish something could happen between us, it's just not plausible. I don't know if your teacher has feelings for you, he might. Though it is most likely not a good idea for you to pursue him even though it probably sounds like an awesome idea. If something did happen there would most likely be plenty of regret and your friendship with him would suffer.
Not to mention if you are found having an affair with your teacher he could lose his job and probably spend time in jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Hey I know how you feel. When I was in seventh grade, I met a math teacher...he was the best. He helped me lose my fear of asking questions when I had doubts. When I had no money to buy launch he gave me some money to feed my hungry stomach. But most importantly, he was always there when I was sad or having some problem. One day I noticed that I was feeling something more than respect and appreciation for him ( you know, butterflies in my stomach, I was thinking about him all day and night, etc). I was really afraid to tell him about my feelings. i did not want to ruin his carrer or lose his friendship. we became very good friends. I had his phone number and we talked on the phone from time to time, he used to gave me a ride to my house in the afternoons afeter school. i decided to tell him about my feelings after my high school graduation. But I was a coward. I didn't do it. I thought my feelings for him would vanished. I had a boyfriend of my same age, we didn't last more than seven months. Now I'm in college, I'm 21 years old and I have to admit that I still have feelings for him. (I was 12 when I met him). I saw him last week and you know what? I felt butterflies in my stomach again. I don't know...I guess I love him...I thought it was only a crush but it was real love. I will be a graduate teacher really soon and he told me that he's anxiously waiting for my to graduation because he's hoping that someday I teach in the same school he works. Apparently, he's "waiting for me" or something I don't know he has always confused me. If I have the chance to work in the same school, I will tell him about my feelings for him. Please think about this carefully. It may b a crush, but it may also be real love. just think about my case...I've been in love with him for almost 9 years...-Wendollyn
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (5 November 2007):
 Hii Hun, i'm goin thru the same situation and i know how it feels! Mine is acutally 20 years older than me lol BIG AGE GAP! I sometimes get the feeling that mine likes me too, and likewise with you - this could be! But ders those unecessary boundaries between teachers and students which really pisses me off lol! I'm gonna tell mine my feelings before i leave school, which is next year. I'm soo dreading it - Arrrghh!Mail mee if you like, in more detail and i'll give you the best advice i can :) xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 We get this kind of posting constantly. And almost always the young lady is absolutely sure she is not having a crush but has found "true love". The sheer numbers alone should convince you that this is a VERY common event in a young lady's life and yes it is a school girls' crush. Most females go through it at some point during their school years. Trust me, he isn't the slightest bit interested in you as a potential lover, just as a potential great student. The feelings you have will fade.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Whether he likes you or not, you can't do anything about it. If you do truly love him you certainly wouldn't want him to jeopardise his career and get a reputation as somebody who goes after young girls. And if you do really love him your feelings will still be there in a couple of years when you're leaving school and old enough to make a move on him without getting him into trouble. However hard it is, just try and forget him for now.
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (5 November 2007):
 Its hard to say to be quiet honest. Yes most people will say its just a crush.There has been many cases where a student and a teacher have got together and yes not all ha ended up bad.I cant encourage you to go a head and make a move simply becuase you are only 13 years old.It must be hard for you because you have to see him everyda, but what you have to understand is the situation you are in you are the student (one under the age of 16 which is the legal age to have a sexual relationship) and he is the teacher.You have to think to yourself, that if he does like you would you and he be willing to jepordise his careea for this. Also you have to think about all the other factors. It may only be a crush because sometimes they can seem like you are in love and that is what a crush is, they can last for years.Its something i think you really need to put to the back of your mind and move on hard as it may seem.If when it comes to the point where you are ready to leave school and you still feel this way and you have found out that he does to then you can take it up but untill then i suggest you dont even attempt to. It could destroy his careea and his reputation and also yours.You sound like you are mature, so please dont make the wrong desision.If you need to talk moer then contact me please.Good luck chickPeaches
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