A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a lover that is about 28 years old. I love him so dearly that I can't do without him. We have been dating for 2 years now. The problem is that he has a son of 7 who lives with the mother and he is proposing to marry her. Please help me. I am the first daugther of my family I am confused.*Moderator Note: Please use proper punctuation next time instead of one super long sentence.* Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 How can a guy be with someone for two years and then break her heart into a million pieces by proposing to another woman? That is sooooo cruel and heart-less....why didn't he marry her 7 years ago when the baby was born..Then you wouldn't be where you are at now.....that don't make too much sense to me...not at all! That guy sounds like he don't have a heart! He is only thinking of himself...and not you!!!
My heart goes out to you dear....I hope that you find a much better man that will treat you like a Queen....you surely deserve it, for what you have been put through!!
My prayers are with you!! Please let me know what happens...because I care!!!!
A
female
reader, cd206  +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Me and India always seem to agree when it comes to giving advice and as usual she is spot on. It's hard but he's doing the right thing for himself and for his son. You will find someone in time who is completely focused on you and it will be wonderful.
CD
...............................
A
female
reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
This might not be the advice you want to hear, but think about his son. If that family has a shot of being a whole one, don't you think you should step back and let them try? His son may have a chance of having a Mom and Dad who live in the same house and love each other... they are already a family, please allow youself to step back and give them a chance to fix their situation.
I know breaking up is hard, especially when you're in love with someone... but since your lover has a son, give his son a chance at a real family.
I know it's hard, but you don't want to be the woman who broke up a family. Let them have a chance at healing... and in the meantime, you should allow yourself time to heal too.
I'm so sorry about your situation. It's a sucky one, I know. Trust that you're doing the right thing...
Good luck, sweetness and stay strong.
xxIndia
...............................
|
