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*aterina.s
writes:Recently i lost both my grandparents on the same day with whom i was extremely close to after this extreme blow my father emmigrated to new zealand. I obviously was hurt and lost my mum was dealing with her own greaving and alike my brother was. I turned to my partner of a year but found no comfort. he cant hug me kiss me and spends most of the time with a blank face or ignores me and watches tv. I finally found the courage to say to him i needed comfort and sellfishly need more attention. he said he couldnt do this because he feels fake and he wont change for anyone. This issue has carried on for about a month and i feel iscolated and alone. I grow more unhappy, I love him but i dont want to feel this way anymore.do i leave him? Reply to this Question
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reader, PM  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 A man who's in a relationship with a woman, must be able to provide her with comfort and support every once in a while. If he does not understand this then you need to find someone who does. If you want to stay with him, then you need to either find a way to change him or to find someone else to turn to for comfort.
With that said, if this man does not provide comfort now when you've essentially lost your whole family, when else is he likely to not provide comfort? What if you get injured in an accident? Will he be there? Will he comfort you in the birthing room after you've had your first child? Will he comfort you if there's another death in the family?
If the answer is no, then you should seriously consider leaving.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (4 November 2007):
 hey,
you deserve much better then him YES LEAVE HIM.
and good luck byeXXX
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