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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year now. We are very serious and talk about marriage. She told me that she was pretty promiscuous during the two to three years before we started dating when she was in the military. She even used the word slut to describe herself at that time in her life. She isnt proud of it. I fell in love with her prior to finding out this stuff. Im still in love with her. I just cant quit thinking about her being a slut in her past. Will these thoughts go away? I love her, and dont want to think about her past. I just want to enjoy the present and our future. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): hey man, you are totaly right and I faced the same problem before. That's why religions are good in my opinion because they help people to stay virgin untill they get married and that make them avoid any fears as you feel. You are right about that and if you went deeper, you will be doing the most horrible mistake in your life. Just try to keep far from her and don't look at her because feelings begin with looking. Besides, try to find yourself a new love because you won't forget a woman except with another women and that helps you to move on fast. Try in the future to ask a girl about her past because that will be affecting her attitude in the future for sure.good luck,Amino
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Here are my thoughts, what I went though and the advice I got.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-her-promicuous-past-including.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): The feelings virtually never go away. Never.
People say "you can get over it if you really love her" but unfortunately that's just not true. It rarely ever goes away. Telling yourself that it will go away does not accomplish anything more than spreading a big portion of her long term guilt and hurt and frustration onto you.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (11 October 2009):
I imagine for most women today, admitting you are a "slut" isn't an easy thing particularly to an SO. If she was that honest, that really says something. It's always easier said than done to try and ignore something. But it's completely up to you. Do you love her for the woman she is NOW? Then you have to learn to forget about her past. As CaringGuy said, if you can't then you need to move on and let her find someone who can.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 October 2009):
So don't think about her past. Everyone comes with a past. She's been honest, she's said she's not proud and she loves you. focus on that. If you find yourself not able to cope with her past, then you must set her free to find a guy who will. But for now, just focus on the woman you love, not the woman she once was.
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