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writes:Im writing this so my head doesn't explode and so i feel sumone is listening, im madly in love with a marrid man, we live together and yet i doubt our reltionship, i that maybe i wont eva stop doubting it as how can you with the cicumstances we met in, im forever questioning if he did that to her can he me??? nhe was marrid with 3 kids and i truly belive he loves me, but yet doesnt take that niggle away, up to press he has done everything i have asked ov him, now he wants to try for a baby, and i do but is it rite, or am i answering my own question by being on here....
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (31 August 2010):
 More than likely, yes he could, and more than likely he will. There's an expression, I can't remember all of it, but it goes something like this: "If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you." Pretty much sums it all up. If he left her for you, odds are he wouldn't think twice about leaving you for someone else. Please understand, I'm not trying to be unkind, but the odds are definitely not in your favor. People can change, and they do, but it isn't easy. And the fact that you are questioning him means you obviously don't feel secure. WHY is that? Only you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): if you or he were having an affair at the start of the relationship then unfortuantly you will never fully trust him. a relationship needs to be formed on trust to have healthy foundations.
as for whether he will do it again the answer is most likely. maybe not for a few years but there will come a till when your relationship is struggling and he has already demonstrated he is willing to cross those boundaries instead of confronting and dealing with the problems at hand.
i have got a few friends who have been through simula circumstances and it has never ended well.
i wish you well in the future
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): polly these questions are nagging at the back of your mind becuase it is a REALITY. You are so scared that your married man will be doing the same dirt to you so plse be aware. of course now the relationship is new, the sex exciting BUT soon normal life will prevail. if he can do the dirt to his wife and his 3 kids what stops him from Fing you over as well. you are scared because in your heart you know what is in store for you. you will be even more foolish to have a baby with this baby man. 4 kids soon? is he a good dad to his 3, does he provide love, emotional and financial support or is he a distant father figure.
if he is truly committed to you why is he only shacking up with you and not divorcing his wife. i say warning bells are ringing and you are a wise young woman to realise that it is only a matter of time before you are next. if he can screw with you, he will screw you over next. think about it.
you know that affairs and committed relations do not go hand in hand. there is a reason he was screwing around with you, you made demands, he left his wife for you BUT come on, the reason you do not trust him, the reason you have these nagging doubts is this: if he can screw over his wife and 3 kids whats stopping him from Fing up your life as well. a married man who leave his wife and runs after his mistress will get tired of her. now being in this committed relationship, you have created a vacancy for another mistress in his life. cheaters rarely change. you need to question yourself as well. you knew he was married, a father of 3. this did not stop you from stealing this man from his family. so Polly, are you both untrustworthy?
think about it.
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reader, Odds +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Yes, he will do it to you. There is just no way you can be more worthy of fidelity in his mind than his original family with its three kids.
If the split and loss of his children was because his wife left him, then he'll last a little longer before cheating, but ultimately the first time you behave in the way his wife used to, he'll become disillusioned and cheat.
If the split was because he left, then he simply does not value relationships.
Either way, it's time to leave.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 August 2010):
Why is he still married? And did you start a relationship with him knowing he was married? Because if he had an affair, he will do it to you, and if he won't divorce her, you're in trouble.
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