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writes:I am 53yrs old and just got back into the dating scene about 5 Mths ago. I reacquainted myself with someone I knew in my teenage years. We have been dating for about 5 Mths and now he says we have no chemistry, which somewhat he is right, but I do love him and he love me and I thought we could work on the other. He just broke-up with me Sat. and I'm so sad. What, if anything, I can do to show him that we could be good together? Reply to this Question
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reader, crabgoat +, writes (22 September 2010):
I know how hurt and disappointed you r right now. You had hopes of building a life together and now that has been shattered.
I have been a widow for 11 years now and I know how it feels to be alone. But I would rather be alone then with someone who isn't that into me. You will find "the one" and you are going to "rock his world"! If a man does not feel immediate chemistry with a woman, he never, ever will. Its like a spark,its instant. Let this one go so that you can make room for the next candidate! :}
PS....notice all your responses are from men, letting you know the truth in a gentle and kind manner. Men need to be sexually attracted to a woman.....#one thing for a man.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 August 2010):
My answer remains the same. He still says there's no chemistry, even if that's directed at you and not both of you, because you've changed since he knew you all those years ago. And that's something you won't be able to get back. You can't change back to who you were years before. This is a man who is living in the past. Nothing can change his view.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): No, he's not saying he has no chemistry, he say's I'm not there and have no chemistry for him. I haven't been in this dating scene for quite awhile, but when I did yes, I was younger and more fibrant. Him and I are both in our 50s and I just thought if we worked on the deficiencies of our relationship, we could fix whatever. He does care alot about me, but I wasn't quite in it as serious. Rest assure it was only 5 Mths we had been seeing eachother. When I knew him in my youth, we never had a relationship, we were just friends. Now, does that change the answer to my question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): i am afraid to say i agree with caringguy. but dont lose heart as love can can appear when least expected offering everything you need. best wishes for the future
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 August 2010):
I don't think this can work. Years ago, you may well have had chemistry together. But now, years later, you're basically two different people and he's seen that. You've been dating for 5 months, and he's clearly given it time and thought. He's decided that while he likes you, he doesn't love you and doesn't feel that chemistry that you once had. So he's ended it. Since he believes that, there really is nothing you can do to show him you can be together, because it will never be the same as what you had years ago. I think you need to let him go.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (30 August 2010):
Show him you can be good together... as friends, while you show off your new boyfriend, in which you both have great chemistry :)
Don't be sad for what you had, be glad for what you can get.
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