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writes:I lost my virginity, to my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago, we've had sex twice since then. He enjoys it but it doesn't do anything for me, is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): If you do not like it don't do it but as its your first few times that is probably why, within time it should become enjoyable.
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Enjoying yourself is all mental.My first few sexual experience were blah... now i absolutely love sex. 2 times is not enough to know how sex really is. Give a few months and things might pick up. I know women who can go months without wanting sex, and some who can barely go a week... regardless most of their first few sexual experience were uncomfortable, and awkward. What got me throught the first few times was knowing and feeling really sexy towards my beau. If you have a good guy he should make it known how special you are which it seems as though he is so find solice in that... and enjoy yorself I promise eventually it will be great!
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reader, jacqui +, writes (30 October 2006):
I have to agree with the advice given, everything takes time, yes it will get better. Even experienced lovers can feel like this if they are sleeping with someone new, it takes time to discover what "does it" for you. Persevere it will improve!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): It gets a lot better trust me!
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reader, Fernikle +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Perfectly so flower. We see these perfect images of the first time through film and television. What they don't show though is the anxiety, the fumble, the pain of the experience or the emotion of it all. You are new and fresh to the experience and believe me experience does count in sexual relationships. You will learn to relax and enjoy the sensations as your experiences expand. Men are much more carnal than women, and this is why women need loving on top of the actual sexual act. In feeling secure in being loved, you will relax and learn to enjoy the sexual side of your relationship more. Talk to your bf and perhaps try preparing for the next time. Work at on the atmosphere - you know, candles, aroma oils, massage. Look at where you are performing sex, is it relaxing, or exciting, or are you just lying back and taking it rather than being involved. Don't be ashamed either, it's a natural progression of a relationship.
Hope this helps you flower.
Mwah X
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reader, stina +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
For many girls, having sex the first few times is more uncomfortable than it is pleasureable. The more you keep having sex, the better it will feel.
You should also talk to your boyfriend about how you two are having sex. Maybe the positions you are doing just aren't pleasurable for you, you know? Just try things out - see what works best for the both of you. Make it fun!
If the discomfort and/or pain goes on for a while, you might want to ask your doctor what his/her thoughts are.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): I didn't much enjoy it at first...now I can't get enough of it!
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reader, Evangeline +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Yep! Totally! Expect your first experiences of sex to be bad. Many grown women who have had sex for years dont manage to come during sex ever - some cant come at all, many dont find sex as satisfying as other things you and your boyfriend can do.
For women sex is very overated, womens bodies are not designed for sex as well as mens are - which means it can be difficult for us girlies. You can make it better for yourself by touching yourself the way you like during sex or even asking your partner to do it.
Good healthy sex comes from feeling relaxed and happy with each other - dont get worked up about it not feeling good so soon after loosing your virginity, it will make you more axious about doing it and therefore you will enjoy it less, relax!
If after some time you feel like your not enjoying it still maybe you could envcourage your partner to do things that works more for you. Be careful not to insult him though about the sex - young men can be very sensitive about this kind of thing and its nothing that anyone should take the blame for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): its due to lack of inexperience. enjoyment and fullfilment will come with time and trying different things. and i u just dont like then, then stop.
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