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writes: I met a guy on a chat site... and even though i wasnt looking for love... from the very first day speaking to each other..we just "clicked"..and even though I know that he feels the same way... the fact that he lives 6 hours away.. has made a relationship between us impossible...I told him last nite how I felt...and he said that he wishes we lived closer..but that it wouldnt be nice not to be like normal couples... and even tho it broke my heart...I agreed to just be friends.. my question is... what should i do...do i carry on talking to him...or do i just move on... i cant help finding myself in front of the pc hoping that he is on... if i do delete him... wont i regret it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): do NOT ever ever go out with someone you met online. it is not always 100% safe. take it from someone who knows, who has been hurt badly physically from someone online. do never meet this guy, you never know who he really is in real life. trust me, if you try to listen to me, you'll be alot better and just try to forget about him. please, even though i know i dont know who you are, i just want you to be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): Can you talk to him on Instant Messenger? Or by personal email? That would be my first step, rather than going to the chat site and wondering if he's there.
If you can contact him by either of these, it would be more personal than being on a chat site where others can chime in......then, just talk. Talk about yours and his interests, things you both like to do (movies, books, whatever) and see how it goes.
Six hours distance is not insurmountable - is it six hours by car or by plane? It might be a situation where you would meet once a month or so......but, having said all this, you must keep in mind his comment about wishing you both lived closer, but as you don't it wouldn't be nice not to act like a normal couple. He MIGHT after you have had some more private conversation, and if that keeps going well, change his mind. Equally, though, he might not, and in that case you need to think whether the disappointment for you is really worth putting time in......have you exchanged photos? If not, that would be a good thing to do.
All the best!
P.S. I'm in touch for over a month now with a guy who lives in Alberta, Canada - I'm in the U.S. about 6 hours by plane.....we talk via IM and webcam and enjoy it very much.....down the road hopefully we'll meet. So, its not impossible!
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