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writes:Okay, ...So in march I had a boyfriend, called John. We lasted for two weeks, because of rumours going round saying I was cheating on him when I wasn't, the rumours took him away from me and sent him to my bestfriend, they finished two days ago and I really want him back, but he doesn't trust me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 gRaa,
I am sorry to hear this happened to you. Very upsetting that people spread rumors that just weren't true......and that John now doesn't trust you.
Go with what Samanthax has said and try to talk with him about this. Trust - on both sides - is one of the most important things in any friendship/relationship.
You will be in my thoughts. I really do hope it will all work out just fine and that you and John can reconnect........but if not, then after you have grieved a while, you'll meet someone else sooner or later who likes and values you for who you are - and who you value and like too......
Keep us posted!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 When someone would rather prefer to believed in rumours, then that person is not worthy of your love.
If that person loves you , he would not care about those rumours and even if it were true, his love will overcome those negative news.
You want someone who does not love you as much as you love him.
Is he worth your love ?
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reader, RyanS +, writes (22 May 2010):
 A guy who left you based on rumors is not worth seeking back. Unless you are in a land where he is the only guy available, try to find a more reliable guy and you will be happier. Or do you just want him back as a trophy? (common among teenage girls). If so, that's not good anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): This must be difficult for you. And it must have been unpleasant when people were making up rumours about you. Why are people saying those things? Is there any way you could sort the problem, like by telling someone what is going on? Would it be possible for you to talk to John, and explain to him that the rumours are not true, you would like to try again, but that he needs to trust you?
If he refuses though, then I don't think there is much else you can do. I know you must really like this guy, but if he is so quick to believe other people over you then it doesn't sound like he is very committed to a relationship anyway. Without trust, it is difficult for a relationship to survive. I know you are not in the wrong here, but if he refuses to believe you and chooses instead to listen to other people, he may not be willing to try and change his viewpoint.
Try explaining to him what you have said here, that they are just nasty rumours. But if he won't give things another try, I think it might be best for you to walk away with your head held high. I am very sorry this has happened to you, and that people have been so cruel. But the right person will come along someday, and that person will choose to trust YOU instead of a bunch of lies. I hope this helps. x
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