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anonymous
writes:HiI started a new job just a month ago into what i thought would be a good job. A few days ago i was called into a meeting with 2 of my female managers to check my progress, and the first thing they told me was ive been doing poor in my work!! They said this was because I was not proactive (by not asking my colleagues for work) I made mistakes and preffered to go on lunch then do my work!!This shocked me for every point they made above i had an answer. i told them i made mistakes since i had not been trained in that area i made mistakes in, and that i took a late lunch so my work could get finished and that i usually asked my colleagues in private if i could help them with their work. But my managers did not seem to understand this. I felt they were attacking my proffesionalism, and the feeling of being frustrated resulted in me bursting out crying infront of them. They didnt even get up to get me tissue or show any concern.We left the meeting and the next day i expected my managers to follow this up and see how i was doing, but they didnt! ive been ignored for the past days just left to get on with work by myself.I generally get on with people but I found the behaviour of these females quiet demotivating.Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to update this one, so here goes! i ended up leaving this company and its incompetent managers a few weeks later! it was mutually agreed (apparantly this silly company had a huge turnover in staff because of poor management) Hardly a surprise!
I never returned there and glad to left since it was the worst company i ever worked at. Since then ive moved onto a better career and now have my own business :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice i appreciate it.
Ive decided that i shall prove them wrong and "suck" up to them to speak but in the meanwhile i shall look for another job where i know the environment will suit me better :)
Thank you all so much.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 You are still new on the job.What do they expect from you ? Listen to their complains and see if you can do as they wanted.
Give your best and if it is not enough, just accept whatever comes your way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): I have come across this situation many times in my career. I am a Human Resources professional and I will explain to you why your managers haven't approached you in the last few days to see how you are feeling.During your first few months of employment, a manager will look very closely at your performance and try to figure out your strengths and weaknesses. Based on their own perception and their conversations with others on your team, they have developed an overall perception of you. They decided to tell you what they expect of you in order to meet their expectations. Unfortunately, you didn't handle the criticism from your managers well at all. Maybe it was their approach that put you on the defensive. But you refused to accept that there was any validity in their constructive criticism, then burst into tears. Please understand that it is not the managers responsibility to make you feel good. It is their responsibility to make sure the work gets done. Your breakdown showed your managers that you can't handle criticism in addition to the functions of your job. So you have some work in changing their perception of you.My advice is to realize that perception is important when you start a new job. If they have made suggestions on how you should improve your work, then listen to them. Make sure they see that you can manage your time effectively before taking your lunch. Make sure they see you asking others for work and asking questions on how to do things properly. Every company does things differently and you will have to figure out how they like things to be done. It doesn't matter what you do well if no one sees you doing it. A lot of companies do not have the resources to train you so you have to be able to roll up your sleeves and figure things out on your own. Sounds like this is the case in this company. Your future at this company depends on you. If you decide that you are unmotivated and don't want to listen to the managers, then your time there is limited. But if you show them that you are making an effort and show them what you are working on and show them that you can follow their direction, then you may be able to change this around. Like I said before, doing a job well doesn't mean anything if no one is looking. Make sure they see what you are capable of and prove to them that they were misinformed.
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reader, RyanS +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Hi, that was a very badly managed/conducted progress review. I am a business owner today and have worked in large companies in the past and we don't shove things like that.
I guess its really difficult to make women work together, even though women work very hard when in teams with male colleagues. And you have two female managers, not one!
Coming back to your office, the economy is not too great, so the job means a lot in today's times. If your managers are fully in control of your progress, then please start communicating with them individually, and ask them for suggestions/inputs every week.
I hope they are not jealous of you (happens if you are too beautiful). Tone down your beauty; dress very simply; don't make them feel insecure as women. Tell them they are boss, and you are there to take orders and learn from them. Don't try build your case through male colleagues - that will backfire.
Office gender politics/dynamics is such a waste of precious human resources but it still happens. Bad.
Hope it helped a bit. Don't lose hears. Many girls are facing similar situations. Keep giving your best, and take care!
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