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writes: Is it just me or am I repulsive? I have the worst time with guys. Like my cuz, both of us only attract losers or no guys at all and we are both pretty, smart and we are nice and sweet but we - me especially - never get noticed by guys. What's wrong with me? I'm on the verge of becoming a NUN... HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2005): it doesnt matter if you are a hot babe or not. the hot babes get plenty of saturday nights at home too. all us girls sit around and wonder where all the guys are. one day you will wake up and have too many to choose from. we all go through it. don't settle for less than what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2005): Dear Misheau,
Welcome to my world.I am in the same situation that you are in.The one guy I have attracted lately was totally not my type.It seems like all the hot guys want girls who are hot,too.It's basically all about looks these days.
All I can say is just try to stay strong and don't give up.
It's like Celine Dion says in her song 'That's The Way It Is'-"Don't give up on your faith.Love comes to those who believe it."
Best wishes,
Sarah
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (24 July 2005):
I agree with communicatrix. All you really need to do is relax and be sure of yourself. You're only attracting losers maybe because you won't meet the guys you want half way. If you expect guys to just come up in a circle and start drooling, you might be in for disappointment because they might think you and ur cuz are too pretty for them or they just assume you have no interest because you never tried to talk to them. Just relax and don't be afraid to be different. You're an individual unique from everyone else, and if you get out of the faded background, people will see you. Being social would help, but don't jump all over guys and do anything they want (most popular guys in highschool and probably college are jerks who will try to use you). Get out there are try meeting the people you want. If you're introverted it's hard at first but gets easier every time.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (24 July 2005):
 Im guessing that your probably in your teens! We all start out thinking that we will never find the right guy, or that no one notices us...it takes a lot of ugly frogs before you find your prince charming!! Relax a little there are bound to be a few men along the way that are not for you... the more you relax about the better it is... it kinda just happens really, its not something you can go out and plan to find.. we all find people in different walks of life.. it will happen when you least expect it... for now enjoy life without a man and then when one comes along it will be all the more enjoyable.
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (24 July 2005):
 Hmmm...you don't say how old you are, but something tells me you're under 30. WAY under 30.
Welcome to the great injustice of it all. While the guys are all busy complaining about how all the girls want is guys who treat them badly, girls in that generational cohort are usually complaining about guys who don't notice the sweet girls who don't think walking all over guys is good sport.
Become a nun if you have a vocation; otherwise, hang in there. Better yet, be even MORE yourself, if possible. Celebrate yourself. Go crazy with being yourself. Do every single thing that you want to do (you know, that's legal and not harmful), and to hell with the rest of them. It's probably not what you want to hear, but there's no fix for this one but time and circumstance. Fortunately, your day will come...in spades.
In short, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are perfect and glorious. It's just gonna take awhile for the guys—or that one, Right Guy—to catch up with you.
Hang in there. It's worth it.
Good luck!
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