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writes: I really like the supervisor in my office and we have been flirting non-stop. I plucked up the courage to ask him out and he said 'for now I'm in a relationship, so at the moment anything other than a friendship would not be possible at this time.' That has confused me as I appreciate he is in a relationship but he's made it sound like he wants me despite his relationship. I don't know what to think but I am crazy about him.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (26 August 2006):
 Just because you may think he wants you more, he is decent enough to say that whilst he is in a relationship, you can only be friends. Why are you trying to turn him into a cheater? When you say you have been flirting, well as I said in another post, I harmlessly flirt all the time, its in my nature and I liek doing it, but when it comes to married men or those with girlfriends, the flirting has to stop and we can only be friends. You have to accept that he is taken and you cant do anything about him no matter how crazy you are about hm. xXx
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (26 August 2006):
 In addition to all this good advice, I wanted to add that I think you ought to be cautious about this man because of the work relationship you have. By that I mean, because he's your supervisor he could affect your career, or your pay rise or your chances for promotion. If things didn't work out - or became sour, that could be a tough situation to be in. (And it sounds to me like he's messing you around a bit already - and nothing's even happened yet!)
Take care and good luck!
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I think that he is keeping you hanging just incase his relationship doesn't work out. He obviously enjoys flirting with you and doesn't want it to stop. But it has too. It is not fair on you. Don't wait for him! Find someone special of your own and stop flirting with this man he is unavailable. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): Some people are just naturally flirty. So although you're falling for him, he's probably just doing it because flirting is fun.
It is hard not to get mixed signals when someone is flirting with you, whether they're being genuine or not, but you have to face facts. It's not going anywhere with you and your supervisor because of his relationship.
Even if were possible for you to date you're supervisor, it might not be as fun as you thought it would be. Imagine if you had had an argument and then had to work with each other the next day still being tense. And you don't want it to seem as though you are sleeping your way to the top.
Move on. Good luck
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 although your carzy about him i think that you should wait because you will hurt poeple if you go with him like the person hes with, i know i dont know you very well its how strong do you feel about him to go with him. but good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): I think he is a bit of a flirt. If he thinks it is OK to flirt with you, then be sure that he would do it if he was with you as well. This may breed insecurity of anything ever did develop from it so bear it in mind. Some men really enjoy flirting and creating a reaction, it gives them a sense of power and is, I feel a bit arrogant and self centred. It does not mean he is a bad person, but perhaps enjoys skating on thin ice and taking risks. He may use it as a way of spicing up his current relationship - who can tell. He is making you feel good about yourself, which is nice, but he is also playing a game, perhaps.If you really want to get his attention you could stop the flirting and tell him that since he is in a relationship you feel it is not appropriate to behave that way any more.He has after all made it clear that he is in a relationship - with the caviat of the words "at the moment". These are designed to make you think his current situation may not be permanent so that he can have the best of both worlds. I think he is a bit cheeky and you would have your work cut out if you did have a relationship with him.
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