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writes:ok i really like this guy but his girlfriend is like my best friend............and im best friends with him to.............but i really like him...i dont no what to do!!! i dont want to ruin our friendship!!! and he likes me to! and i really really want to go out with him...........should i take a chance? or should i not?sammie
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reader, Crisy  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 Mabye you should tell your friend how your feeling or better yet the lad you like, I mean its completely against the rules to date you best friends boyfriend, but hey if you really like him then screw the rules. Good luck x
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (8 January 2008):
I really don't know how you girls think but the way i've grown up as a man and boy,my brothers',my friends' and especially my best friends' girlfriends are out of bounds no matter how attractive they may be and no matter what they may say.Infact,if you claim to be best friends,the minute you discover he's hitting on you,it's your responsibilty to tell your best friend.Imagine you are living with an elder sister who's married to a man you fancy and he starts hitting on you.What would you do?
It's normal to be attracted to da opposite sex but not crossing the line is important.Think clearly about it and remember you may lose your best friend if you start dating her guy and she may do the same in future.So you have to choose between your feelings for him and the friendship with your best friend.
Good luck
Take care
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reader, chlez83 +, writes (8 January 2008):
I really don't know how you girls think but the way i've grown up as a man and boy,my brothers',my friends' and especially my best friends' girlfriends are out of bounds no matter how attractive they may be and no matter what they may say.Infact,if you claim to be best friends,the minute you discover he's hitting on you,it's your responsibilty to tell your best friend.Imagine you are living with an elder sister who's married to a man you fancy and he starts hitting on you.What would you do?
It's normal to be attracted to da opposite sex but not crossing the line is important.Think clearly about it and remember you may lose your best friend if you start dating her guy and she may do the same in future.So you have to choose between your feelings for him and the friendship with your best friend.
Good luck
Take care
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reader, Variety +, writes (8 January 2008):
 What if you go after him and he doesn't feel the same. Then you might lose them both. There are some people who are off limits, and friends boyfriends (and recent ex's) fall into that category. xxx
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (8 January 2008):
 I too think that Laura said it best; if you chase him, you lose your, as you say "Best friend". Being her best friend has put you in a difficult situation, and that situation is that; chances are, your friend won't be happy with you for dating him, even if they break up. Some people say "Friends don't go out with friend's ex's". This may or may not be true to your friend, but it is a possibility, and puts yet another point into the category of: Nothing good can come of this.
Only chase this boy if you think he is worth ruining the friendship with your best friend, because if you do decide to chase him, she will probably despise you for it. Also, who's to say things will work out if you did. You may both decide that being friends is more comfortable, and then you will have gained nothing from the situation.
I'm not trying to scare you out of the idea, I'm just pointing out possible results of actions you wish to carry out. Whatever you decide, I hope things work out for the best.
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reader, DollyShot +, writes (8 January 2008):
Stay away, stay away! How would you feel if you were in your friend's shoes? That's what you have to think about. Plus, do you really want to be with a guy who might leave you as easily as he came to you? Other guys will come, don't worry.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (8 January 2008):
 I agree with Caligirl & Laura1318...Don't go after him... it would be wrong.
You are young, and at this point of your life, your FRIENDS are more important. RESPECT your friends the way that YOU would want them to RESPECT you.
If he likes you alot, let him chase you to the point of EXHAUSTION. For a LOOOONG TIME. But resist hurting your Girlfriend... it isn't worth it to loose a friend.
If he breaks up with her...then after a few weeks after the break-up...it may be OK for you to date him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): hullo my dear friend .i really dont advise u to go on
with that relationship,because if he managed to do
such a thing as cheating on her with u her best friend
then he will definately cheat on u,and u will end up
lossing u friendship with u friend which is very important
more than him,he is a player ,he will just break u heart
just let go
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reader, CaliGurl +, writes (8 January 2008):
No you should not go for him, he's your best friend's boyfriend! Regardless of whether you two like each other it will put a huge strain on the friendship with the girl. After all, how would you feel if the situation were the other way around and she were considering a boyfriend of yours?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 You have to decide him or your best friend. Which one will you sacrifice?If you go after him , you will lose a friend and gained an enemy.
If you think , he is worth it , then you will have to sacrifice your friend.
It is not right to compete for your best friend's b/f.If that boy likes you more , then it is different.
Which is more important to you, love or friendship?
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