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writes:I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 November 2018):
 You can't STEAL another person.
THAT is not how things work!
If she "gets" him before you do, it's because SHE made a move or HE liked HER better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2018): What's Jonah waiting for if he likes you, instead of Aliyah?
You said you and he have a connection; and you believe he likes you. If you want to know how much, you have to ask him before Aliyah comes charging in!
Be friendly, but don't do anything desperate, or try to bribe him in any way. Don't offer him anything, he has to like you of his own free-will.
NEVER FIGHT OVER BOYS!!!
If they're too stupid, shy like a baby, or too immature to let you know they like you; but they know you like them. Keep your crush to yourself. Otherwise, boys will always have the upper-hand over you; and many will break your heart.
Be smart! After he knows, but doesn't say anything; he's just playing around with your feelings. Leaving you hanging.
If he's brave enough to let Aliyah know he likes her; he should have let you know first. Right?
When boys don't make a choice, no one is stealing anyone from anyone. He doesn't belong to you, or Aliyah.
If you're scared and she's not, if she gets him instead; it means he likes her more than he liked you anyway.
If you're not old enough to date, and don't have your parent's permission to see boys; then I guess Aliyah has the advantage, but it doesn't mean she gets what she wants.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (11 November 2018):
 At your age, you should only go out in groups, so invite him and some friends out to the movies or for a meal.
As for “stealing” - he’s not yours, so he can’t be stolen. It all feels very stressful and emotional, at your age, but “stealing” someone isn’t a thing.
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reader, CherryR07 +, writes (11 November 2018):
At the end of the day, if it's meant to be, it'll be. You can't force anything, and neither can she. If he likes YOU, then it'll happen. One thing though, don't try to change yourself for a guy.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 November 2018):
 Being a teenager is tough, at times it’s as if every day has traps and detours designed to throw you off track and upset the equilibrium. Toss guys and dating and maybe a love triangle into the mix and it gets even more complicated.
The first thing to remember is to take it slow, getting into a relationship isn’t a race, so just take it nice and easy. You don’t have to rush towards the finish line. It’s best to get to know him a little more first, keep talking to him and learn a little more about him so that you can be sure he is interested as well, and that you will be good together.
Remember this will be a two way street, you can’t just decide that you and he will be good together with him having the same input. Remember he is a person, just like you, and could also be feeling anxious or insecure, or he might just simply not be interested in a relationship with you.
Because he is a person, just like you, he might decide he’d prefer to be in a relationship with Aliyah for now, and if that happens you will need to let it go, he is not a commodity or a prized piece of jewellery just waiting to be snatched up by an opportune thief, if he does get with Aliyah it will be because that’s what he decided to do.
You are still quite young, with plenty of time to get into a full on relationship, take it slow, don’t rush into ANY decisions, make sure there is mutual respect and that you are both on the same page.
Have fun and be safe.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (11 November 2018):
 Steal him? Is she going to tie him up and drag him away against his will?
You are a maximum of 15 years old (probably younger, judging by your post). I dread to think what you mean by "go about it". I do hope you are not thinking you have to offer sex on a plate to get a boyfriend.
If you like this lad, say "hi" when you see him. Start a conversation - about ANYTHING. Music, tv, school work. It really doesn't matter what. Just get chatting. Build up a friendship and take things from there.
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