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writes:i lied to my ex boyfriend about my pregnancy and i wanna now how i can get him to talk to me again its so hard not to think about him i can't get no sleep at night cause all i do is think about him what should i do i need help.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (13 October 2019):
 Did you lie that you were pregnant and you weren't? Or did you lie that you weren't pregnant and you were? Or did you lie that the baby was his and it wasn't? Or vice versa?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2019): Well you could text him a short apology.Something like: I'm Sorry it wasnt true and now I regret being so stupid.He might not answer.He might not be bothered about your lie.He might have seen through it straight away.If you said you weren't pregnant when you were, then just admit your mistake.Say something like : "Turns out I am pregnant/ was pregnant/ wasnt pregnant for you." Dont let this become the definition of who you are.You are still a decent person who just made one silly mistake by lying or cheating etcHe will get over it.You will get over it.Life goes on.Go and see the doctor and tell her/him you cant sleep and get something non-addictive that helps you to sleep.There's not a soul on earth who can think straight if they dont sleep!You must be under an incredible amount of anxiety.Some meds for anxiety also help you to sleep and after a good nights sleep its easier to see the problem in perspective.Do you have a trusted adult to talk to?Take it from me that this is not an insurmountable hurdle.You are still young.You learn by making mistakes.You can pick up the pieces of your life so dont give up..Even if you told him he's the father when he's not then just tell him again its a false alarm so he doesnt get messed up.At your age things change so fast that you need not dwell on your problems or mistakes for long either.There will always be other options for you at this stage of your life.Its never so serious that it cant be solved.There will always be an answer so if you cant 'fess up just let it be until you speak to him again, but get a bit of decent sleep sweetheart and try talking.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (24 June 2019):
 No idea what the situation was but someone so young lying about such a serious issue waves huge red flags at me. Whatever the situation, lying is NEVER the answer.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (23 June 2019):
 OP, please consider that your post tells us nothing. We can't advise you because your post doesn't make sense.
Did you lie:
- saying you were pregnant, but you weren't?
- saying you weren't pregnant, but you are?
- saying you weren't pregnant, but you were and had an abortion?
- saying he was the father and he isn't?
- saying he isn't the father and he is?
Our questions:
- Are you pregnant?
- What did you lie about?
- Why did you break up?
- How long have you been broken up?
- Why did you lie?
- Why do you want him to talk to you again?
I think, depending on your answers, you need to talk to a trusted adult about this. Lying about pregnancy, whether the pregnancy is real or not, is immature and can be very harmful to your future and anyone else you tell/lie to.
We can give you advice, but the main help you need is an adult in your life who can guide you into making better decisions and being honest from here on out.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 June 2019):
 I'm with Cindy,
We need more info to give you answers. You post is way to vague.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 June 2019):
 I think we'd need some more details to be able to give you any help.
What does it even mean " I lied to my ex boyfrend about my pregnancy " ?
Did you lie about being pregnant but in fact you were not ? Did you lie to him about he being the father ,when the father was another guy ?
Or, did you find out you were pregnant AFTER you broke up but you denied being pregnant ?...
Different situations require different handling….
Plus, why did he become an ex, to begin with ? Splitting up was his idea or yours ? Was the break up connected to your pregnancy, or unrelated ?....
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