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*ls1990
writes:My friend has just asked me to be god mother to her 2 children. I'm really flattered but I don't know what to say! Do you have to be a Christian to be a god parent? What will my role be?
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reader, cls1990 +, writes (13 February 2010):
cls1990 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys. I see the kids often anyway, that's why she asked me (I think?!) I seem to have been roped into helping organise it too, not that I mind. I'm glad to be a part of it...now to find the christening presents
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (12 February 2010):
 It is very nice to be asked and your friend obviously trusts you and respects you. It generally means being an appropriate role-model for the children, and offering support if they should need it in the future (I mean emotional support, not financial). If she has her children baptised in a church then you maybe asked to participate in the ceremony by saying that you accept the role of godparent and will guide the children appropriately.
I think you should ask your friend what she expects from you as future godparent...different people have different views on it. Her expectations from you may vary from what any of the aunts and uncles here might suggest.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 I may be mistaken, but I believe this also means that in the event that she and her husband are in an accident, she's like you to care for her children. It's an honor, and a responsibility.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): It all depends if you friend is a practicing Christian, but if she was I don't think she would ask someone who is not a Christian.
By asking you, your friend is saying she want you to be part of her children's life, as a God Mother you are meant to guide them morally, be there for them when they need someone to talk to, or need help, that sort of thing.
You are right to be flattered, it is a compliment that she has asked you, and by you coming here trying out about it I would say she has made a good choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): Most God parents these days dont take their role seriously, so Im glad that you do. I hope you will continue to take it seriously. Being a god parent means that you are there for these children, as an extra parent, in case they need you. Like an aunt or something? A close one though! God parents are often picked from within the family, or from the closest friends. It means that you should be there for the children as they grow up, help them with things, maybe be someone they can come to for advice etc etc. It doesn't mean baby-sitting! But family-picked god parents often do end up as baby sitters. Just stay in touch with the children. You might not have to do so much right now when they are very young, but as the grow, remember that you are their god-parent. If anything happens to their real parents, you're a kind of back-up to rely on. If you don't have a close connection with the children then you wont really be able to fulfill your role. In my eyes at least.
Or you can be the type of god-parent they never see but that sends a nice check for their birthdays.
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