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writes:okay let me start like this amd my boyfriend started dateing 5 months ago and i lied about my age and he is about to be 17 and im 3 years younger then him but we are like really serious about our realtionship and i dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, little miss helpful  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 you need to tell him!!!!!!!!
fair enough he might be mad at first but if he really cares about you then he will calm down and except it.
tell him when you lied to him you didnt expect to get into a serious relationship with him but your glad you did and he desrves to know the truth cos you really care abouit him and dont want to lie anymore as its not fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): When you're 13 and 17, age DOES matter.If someone called the authorities, he could be jailed for this. It doesn't matter that you lied to him. (You could sign a paper swearing that you told him you were over-age and it won't matter one bit. They would prosecute him anyway.)He probably won't break up with you over the age thing although he probably should. But it's not right for you to be risking him ending up in this position without even knowing about it. Teenage girls like to point out how much more mature they are than boys as long as it doesn't cost them anything. But I don't see much "maturity" being shown when you're lying to him about this. Mature people understand that there are more important things in a relationship than just their own gratification, like worrying about what might happen to the other person.
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 age really dosent matter! if he's really serious about you, he would set aside the age diferences!
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reader, Kohjakza  +, writes (15 September 2007):
if you are becoming as serious as you believe, then honesty about your dishonesty now will only make you stronger. You are young yet, if he is put off, there will be another for you guaranteed. But try honesty now.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (14 September 2007):
 lying is never a good option. it's done now and if you don't tell him then he'll find out sooner or later because if you're about to enter the serious part of your relationship then he'll want to meet your family and they know your age. be honest but prepare yourself for the worst, that way, whatever the outcome you can be strong enough to deal with it. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): I lied to my now ex boyfriend about my age and he found out and do you know what? He didnt care he loved me for me not our ages we stayed together for nearl three years, but if you are having sex you really need to tell him otherwise he could get into BIG trouble.
If he loves you he wont care just be honest and if you cant tell him face to face just write him a letter im sure it will be ok
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reader, kindone +, writes (13 September 2007):
 tell him the truth if he really likes you he will except it and if not find someone your age
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reader, rockelle +, writes (13 September 2007):
 It is always a bad idea to start off a relationship telling lies. However, now that you have already started off on the wrong foot, you should tell the truth. If you and your boyfriend are having sex, or plan to have sex he could get into serious trouble. Let him know that you acknowledge that you are wrong for lieing, and hopefully he will forgive you and you can work things out. Good Luck!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Tell him the truth now.
As if it gets anymore serious i.e sexual hes the one who will end up in jail. No matter if you lied to him. Hes the one whos in danger here.
Tell him the truth and he if really likes you he will still date you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): No matter what, you're going to have to tell him the truth.
One of two things will happen as a result & it depends on how old you told him you were & what it means to him that you be a certain age.
If he thinks that sex will be on the agenda fairly soon, then he'll likely break up with you ... If he does & says it's because you lied, that'll be a big load of bologny - it's because he'll know that sex won't be a possibility for at least another few years & if he's that shallow, then good riddance to him.
If he's not in a rush for sex, and you guys get along really well, it won't matter to him anyway because your age won't be relevant. All that will matter to him is that he cares for you & you get on well & can relate to each other -- and age doesn't change that.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Hi
You have to tell him the truth and believe me if yourll were meant to be ( if yourll really love each other) then you would overcome this. Im sure that you have learnt not to lie anymore.You need to tell him asap so that you can work on mending this little gap in your relationship. Also age is nothing but a number and 3 years is not a big age gap.My bf and I are 10 years apart and we are still doing great.You would get through this.
Good Luck,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, war37 +, writes (13 September 2007):
Hi how old did you say you were?If hes nearly 17 and you 14 then you need to be honest as he might like to have sex,if youve told him your 16-17 hes going to be mislead into thinking you are old enough when you could get him into trouble?Tell him your real age,if he likes you he'll be ok with it and honesty is the best policyx
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