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*nsideman
writes:I want to know how to get over the fear and pain of your ex-girlfriend having sex with another guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): I know how you feel. But cure yourself! NOW!!!
Everytime you think of her having sex with anther guy and having great sex unrivaled passion! etc...
Think about how much great sex YOU are gonna get with all the NEW and mysterious women you are now FREE to EXPLORE!
Just one bro to another, peace out!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (14 September 2007):
Since she is an ex you have to expect it. You need to get to the point of not being interested in what she does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Well dude, jealousy is a hard thing. And she must have had a hold over your heart but you decided how much of a hold she would have.
So that same force that can allow for her to have that hold is what you need to tap into to forgive and forget.
Forget in that accept it is over.
Accept also that you will move on and find someone else who you will share your love and life with.
How about thinking, instead-whenever such thoughts get in the head- why don't I keep myself busy and go to the gym, why don't I go see a movie, why don't I visit an old friend...
Say: I loved her. I am sad it is over. I will miss the good things I loved and cherished about her. I will take with me the lesson I have learnt by being in a relationship with her. I will be okay. I will heal. I will be happy. I will find someone else when I feel ready to. I am in control of how I think and feel. I love me.
Best Wishes.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 September 2007):
 You are driving yourself crazy by dwelling on something you can't do anything about anyway. You need to try and get your thoughts channelled in a new direction. It's easier if you stay busy and keep your mind busy as well. If you find yourself thinking about this: go for a run, watch a really good movie, read a good book, call a friend, just do something that will make you think about something else. She is history and you have to leave her in the past or you'll go nuts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Well, for a start, more info would be better. If she is your ex then why are you bothered if she does sleep around. She is not with you, so why worry. How and when did you split up?
take care
xx
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reader, rockelle +, writes (13 September 2007):
 It shoudln't matter if she is your ex. Move on, and go on some dates with other women. You will be too busy keeping up with your own social and sex life that you will not have time to think about her and what she is doing.
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reader, insideman +, writes (13 September 2007):
insideman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clarify. We are not together anymore in fact we don't even speak. I am just haunted by visions of her having not only sex with another guy but great sex with another guy. I know it shouldn't bother me but the truth is it does.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 September 2007):
Do you mean she slept with another guy while you were together but now you have broken up? Or that you are broken up and she has slept with someone after the breakup? The answers will be different depending on which it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): If she is your ex gf, and you no longer see each other then that's the first step. I think understanding that her infidelity to you, was nothing you did wrong. This was a weakness, a glitch in her. because when we love someone, we don't cause them pain, do we. We all collect experiences in life that help us form decisions about our lives and the people we choose to be in our life. You are in pain, and it's time for you to understand that your old, unhealthy love choice here was useless to your life. Now, use this experience and knowlege to gain strength and begin to make new healthier choices, which will heal your fears and pain and build the ability to trust someone, in your future. So build that trust again before meeting new people, or you run the risk of taking this baggage into future relationships. The only one who can heal you..is you and it takes hard work, efforts and patience. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): It takes a while but you eventually will get over it - other wise it will eat away at you and drive you insane!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Well she's your ex now, so move on. try to meet some women. Are you still in love with her? Why did you split? We need details.
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