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anonymous
writes:I have been with my daughters father for almost 10 years. We never married but we live together and have a happy life together. However, I do not feel attracted to him anymore and I constantly find myself thinking about other men. There is one guy in particular that I have been in love with since I was 16. He recently found me on myspace and I was so excited to hear fom him and he is all I can think about. My daughter loves her dad and I feel really bad like I have betrayed her. I dont want to break our family up but I am always thinking about it. I feel if I break up with him he will have no one and my daughter will hate me. I love him and want him to be happy but the spark aint there. I dont want to break his heart because I care to much for him. Am I selfish? I have cheated before and felt horrible after. However, I am in need of some sweep me off my feet lovin. What is wrong with me? Should I leave him? Please help me with some advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): thanks for the advice. its helps. however, having sex is like a chore. i just dont enjoy it anymore with him. i think its me. i have all these fantasies of how i want to be made love to. i have tried different stuff with him but just cant bring it back. however, family is more importannt so I am going to accept my relationship and try to get over these horrible feelings. i know i have to tell him i cheated. maybe that will change things in a good way....i hope ;)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2009):
It seems like you and your husband need to comminucate a lot more. You're both becoming distant, so maybe you need counselling? You must tell your husband how you feel about your relationship and say that it's in jeopardy. You've already cheated once and you didn't like it. So doing it again really isn't going to help you and you're going to end up feeling worse. Men respond to the imminant fall of the axe, so if you talk to him bluntly, he might well respond. Lots of luck.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (21 September 2009):
It sounds to me like your relationship is getting a bit distant and even though there is no friction here. Ask yourself, is the grass always greener on the other side? Do you want to chuck 10 years away for this and if your in love with this guy since 16, how come your not with him? what made you part company back then? We all do stuff at the time for a reason and its nice to look back. I think perhaps you need to be addressing what you feel is missing in your current relationship, you should talk to your other half and tell him how your feeling about things. You never know he might surprise you!
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