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anonymous
writes:So...My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. I just found out that he cheated on me two weeks ago...with a man. He has had an online relationship with him for the past 4 months. He didn't tell me the truth, I found out on my own. Also, he lied to the other guy about being married. He says he will never do it again, and that he doesnt want to lose me or my son (who is from a previous relationship). Im having a hard time dealing with this, and I just don't believe that it wouldn't happen again but I also still love him and want to believe him. Any opinions are greatly appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): he has had sex with another man - so he is gay.please do not listen to his bullshit. he will do this again.you know in your heart of hearts he will not stop. it is just a matter of time before he is at it again with another man. i know you love him but please be realistic. before this gets more painful, more sodid you need to make a decision. whatever you decide decide fast and make peace with the decision. my gut tells me that you need to take your kid and RUN.........
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2009):
He needs to be sure of his own sexuality. The last thing you want is for him to smooth things over, then decide he is gay and leave. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, so you may want to consider that as well. You may love him, but you can't change him.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (21 September 2009):
Ouch that must hurt, cheatings bad enough but with someone of a different sex. Has he told you he is bisexual, gay or straight? If hes lied about his sexuality then he is odviously discovering himself. If it was me i'd tell him to go away and think about what he wants (men or women!) Then give yourself sometime to weigh up wether you want to continue this marrage etc. If he turns out to be gay theres no reason that you can't get on with him later on or him stop seeing your son if you want him too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): Did he meet the guy and cheat on you with in physically? If the answer is yes then I think you have to seriously consider what is best for you and your son, do you believe that he still loves you? Has he said he's bisexual or has he not talked about that? If he cheated on you with a woman would you feel differently? Even if he didn't meet the guy, he still cheated on you and I think you really need to talk to him about exactly how both of you feel and see if you want to continue with the relationship. I know it mus hurt a lot but no one deserves to be cheated on and I really hope you can work things out with him.
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