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writes:hi,well this is kind of long, first of all, I feel ashamed to be this confused because i am 27 years old and should not be feeling like this. truth is up until a year a go, i was doing very good when it came to men. my two most relationships, was one for 3 years, where we became engaged and it was me who realized we would not be happy and ended it, then met a guy few months later, and for the first time in my life, truly fell in love. but i was in a bad time in my life.... and it didnt work. before that i always knew what to do and was never insecure or worried. after that, it changed.... one bad mistake after another. and i took a break..... and i was fine. then i met this guy, through fiends at a gathering. didnt think anything of it. i mean i was cool, then he added me on facebook, and sent me a message every once in a while. I still was ok, did not think anything of it. and one day he asked me to coffee, I agreed, i had a a good time and was still feeling ok, cause before that, after my bad break up every guy i met i lost it. with this guy, i didnt even think anything, not that i didnt like him, but i was fine. after our coffee date he started sending me a lot of text messeges and it was a lot of fun, i enjoyed it. he asked me again to go out with him a few days after. he took me to sushi, and asked me to stay with him longer, took me out with his friends. at the end of that night he kissed me, and we held hands. i felt like i was 16 again. it was nice to meet someone so polite, and considerate and so into me. he kept being that way after that too... for a few weeks, every day he would send me alot of messeges, and we kept seeing eachother, and by this time i was really into him. then..... one day he kind of stopped messaging me so much. I sent hima message telling him i was gonna make that meal for him that i promised, he said he had an exam he had to study for. i was supposed to leave for toronto a few days after, so i said im leaving on Monday, he said i know, i will probably come see you tomorrow. it didn't happen, and i messaged him Monday morning as my trip had canceled, just informing him of that. we text messaged each other a few times, but it felt very weird. we used an application on our phones for texting each other, and over the past few days like i mentioned, he did not message me as often, and took a long time in replying. then he sent me a normal text, saying i deleted that application, it was messing up my phone. now, as a joke, and also because i wanted an answer, i said you only did that not to tlak to me anymore. he called me ridiculous and said there are a lot easier ways to do that. ..... i was never like this....why am i feeling so weird???? i liked him so much that i saw something he would like and i bought for him, just for an excuse to see him, how lame is that??? i sent him a text last night, saying i have something for you, he did not reply, i texted again today and said ur so mean:P he sent me a text, saying are you nuts???? he has become so mean and up until 5 days ago he was so into me, all over me. anyways, I called him and his phone was off, i left a voicemail asking him to call me cause this guessing game is just too much for me. he texted me a few hours after, asking me whats up, i am going to my parents for a workout.now i am really hurt, really hurt, and i just decided not to answer..... maybe i was way too nice or messaging him way too much i have heard if you ignore them they come back, i am not into these games.. i have never had to ignore a guy for him to like me, i dunno, i really like him. i know he likes me i just don't understand whats going on.......help
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reader, j321  +, writes (14 May 2011):
Sounds like he has lost interest or got scared for some reason. If you two get back together ask him if you have been smothering him?. I do not think so but some people are sensative. Find out if he was in a bad relationship maybe he got cold feet for some reason.
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reader, MarMarMar +, writes (23 April 2011):
MarMarMar is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you....
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (21 April 2011):
Hi - from my perspective - you shouldnt have to chase after him so much since you kind of both are just starting out - chill out a bit and just dont text him for a couple of days - let him come to you. If he's keen then he will not be able to stand it and contact you - if he's not so keen then it was a sign that it wouldnt have worked out anyway. I know you are in the very early stages of a relationship and he might be freaking out a little too - let him get himself together and come back to you - dont chase him!Really wishing you good luck with this!
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