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anonymous
writes:hey, i lost my virginity two weeks ago. my boyfriend said that i was 'tight' and it hurt him a bit. Anyway, we did it again and although it didnt hurt him this time it still hurt me a bit even though he was gentle and he kept asking me if he wanted to stop, i said no. I was just wondering why it was uncomfy and will it get better? thanx
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 Yes, it will get more comfortable. The first two or three times it may continue to hurt. I think this may be especially so if you try again too quickly, because the area may be torn or tender and needs a little time to repair itself. But in time at all the pain will turn to pleasure and hopefully you'll start wanting more and more of it! ;)
If the first time hurt you, and your boyfriend's penis has any sensitivity at all, it will hurt him too. The tightness of a virgin is not a pleasant kind of tightness (unless you're a sadist), and can't be compared with the much more pleasurable tightness of a responsive woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): It's really comfortable for a guy to bang a virgin because it's nice and tight but the problem is for the girl... I think you should be better after having been banged a few more times. Why don't you try a gang bang ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): I lost my virginity 6 days ago. I bled alot the first day then it stopped and the second day my period started. Penetration was still painful even yesterday even though we had lost of foreplay. How long will it take for the pain to go or is there something wrong and i need to consult a doctor......... ? :( anybody with the same experience? please advise
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 You are tense because you are anticipating pain that probably won't be there anymore once your hymen was broken.
Relax a bit and it'll come more natural..use more lubricant too. That should help. BUT, most of all relax and enjoy the moment. Get rhythmic with him (move with him as he thrusts)and that'll encourage more natural lubrication.
Gena
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reader, bayleex +, writes (28 March 2008):
 The first few times you have sex it does hurt because all your muscles are 'tight'. But i would recommend different positions and more foreplay also lube can help.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Wow, so I was right. A guy can get hurt during sex. My bf said they couldn't. I'm sure your pain will lessen with time though. His is gone now, but yours will take time.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Listen it is bound to be tender or sore right now, it always is at the beginning and it can remain that way for a while so unless there is foreplay beforehand that allows you to relax a little and in time things will get easier.
At the beginning for me it was the same as you describe and as I was not someone who slept around I didn't become floppy in the vagina area and this did not change until after I had my daughter.
You can use lubricant jelly such as KY Jelly and as you experiment more you will discover what allows you to relax.
If your bf just wants to just get on and have sex and does not relax you with gentle kissing and foreplay beforehand then you are going to remain tense. Maybe suggest gentle caressing of one another or use some light massage oil - not too much though as this can cause havoc.
Just try and relax and it does get easier honest.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Hi,
Unfortunately most woman first experience of sex is disappointing.This is because we are inexperience at know what our bodies like and that it takes time for a womans vagina to be ready before penetration. This is why i's very important to have plenty of foreplay before hand.This helps the muscle of the vagina to relax and lubricate.
I suggest you experiment without penetration for a while. Explore your body (and his)to find what you like and what you don't.
you will soon experience good sex.
Good luck
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