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writes:How do I get over someone I am in love with getting married within the next year?Please help my entire body hurts. I was taken when he wanted me then he found her. I know it's not meant to be but just tell me how to get over it. Don't say time because they've been dating for two years and it still hurts more as time passes. I've tired everything, dating other people and nothing Reply to this Question
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reader, pepcolagrl12 +, writes (16 September 2008):
I know you wrote that post back in March, but I was wondering is all you needed was time..are you feeling any better or are you still feeling the same. If it is the second, then you need to tell him. That's all there is to it. Watch the movie "My Best Friends Wedding". You'll see what I mean.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Oh believe me it is never easy and I have been trying to get over someone I fell for in June 2005 and he has had numerous girlfriends since and he has given me very positive signals and then a new girlfriend appears and I am back to square one.
My situation is different as the man I fell for lost his wife 3 years ago so he was and still is dealing with that and no woman has completely compared to his lost love. However, he does seem to be getting very close to someone right now so believe me it isn't easy to handle but somehow you have to.
You weren't ready when he was and now you are he is taken, I think that's called sod's law. You have tried to reach him but perhaps he feels that he needs to withdraw from you right now to concentrate on his relationship. Does he know how you feel about him and the fact that you are now available or is he in the dark?
How close have you been to this guy and did you used to talk openly at all?
You either have to bite the bullet and make more of an attempt to contact him, perhaps he has changed his mobile phone so that is why he has not replied. Have you got a home address for him, you could always send him a Hello card but if he lives with his gf this could cause problems.
Or you have to tell yourself that this just isn't meant to be and he has made his choice and it is time for you to move on with your life. I have had to choose the second path as I cannot do anything further and I will drive myself insane if I ache for my man. It is so painful to see him at events with the gf laughing and joking and holding her, believe me but I haven't just gone out and found the first guy that came along, I have given myself time to find me again and perhaps that is what you need to do.
You cannot waste your life sitting around hoping this guy is going to come to his senses and turn up on your doorstep, life just isn't like that. If he means so much to you then you need to address it properly but be aware of the fall out if you do. You could create problems for him with his fiance if you approach him but on the other hand if he isn't living with her then what is the harm in sending him a card to say hi, sorry you missed his birthday but you sent him a text to his mobile but wondered if he changed numbers now.
Life is here only once so you either take matters into your own hands and then even if it all goes tits up so so speak at least you can say to yourself that you tried.
I am happy with my situation right now and I can live my life, you on the other hand sound as though it is driving you insane. Take the initiate and make a decision to either do something or move on but don't live in this current limbo state, it is not healthy.
If you do find that you are not able to contact him then plan something exciting in your life like a trip/holiday with friends so that you can have some fun back in your life and you then have something to look forward to and plan.
Keep me posted eh!
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman (Good Luck)
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reader, sadgurlie04 +, writes (27 March 2008):
sadgurlie04 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe are no longer speaking now as of december. I texted him on his bday to no reply. I just hurt all over.
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