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writes: When I first met my G/F she was all over me: sweet messages, lots of loving notes, nick names, all of that. It's now three months later and although we are still together, all of that has disappeared. We communicate and see each other as much as we used to its just that I dont sense that she is as "into it" as before.Should I back away a bit and play a little... hard to get? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): hey ok my b/f was feeling the same way and the thing i have to tell you is just relax. think to yourself real quick do you kind of push yourself on her alot. i don't mean physically but verbally. i don't know how serious you two are but if you say i love you too much or anything to that effect she might just get tired by it. if you say it alittle less she will crave it! it will drive her nuts and she will so want you more than ever!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): hey ok my b/f was feeling the same way and the thing i have to tell you is just relax. think to yourself real quick do you kind of push yourself on her alot. i don't mean physically but verbally. i don't know how serious you two are but if you say i love you too much or anything to that effect she might just get tired by it. if you say it alittle less she will crave it! it will drive her nuts and she will so want you more than ever!
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reader, Jimmy +, writes (5 April 2006):
I'm in a very similar boat to you myself. The only thing to do, (and don't be worried about doing this otherwise it will start to eat you up like it did me) is sit her down one day/evening and to have a mature, honest chat with her expressing your anxieties. It is my opinion and experience that some women (and some guys too)do not like to be smothered by their partners because otherwise they feel that it will spoil their enjoyment of their partner. I think this is probably what is happening in your case, so try just backing off a little and give her a bit of breathing space. I hope this helps.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 April 2006):
 Three months is a shor period of time for the thrill to have worn off. That also depends on your age. IF you're 20 that's one thing but if you're 55, that's another. Things don't always stay "super hot" once a relationship matures, you have to decide to keep it that way.
Ask her what's changed. It sounds tome like the thrill of the chase has subsided.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2006): All relationships go through a "honeymoon" period in the beginning, where everything is brilliant, your all over each other etc, and in time it tends to fade away, but it's not necessarily a bad thing and it dosen't mean it's all over at all. Maybe she's just realised that you both need your own space aswell. You sound a little bit insecure in relationships, but it's ok, i'm the same. You just need reassurance that she still wants to be with you. It's perfectly natural to have worries in any relationship. Try talking to her, and see what she says.Take care
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