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writes: Readers both males and females,this is a bit long but i really need to get it off my mind.Well I had this long distance relationship with this guy for about a year i am 28 he is 26 and he gave out all the right signals talking our relationship through etc and deciding our future blah blah when we saw each other at the end of the year . Like an idiot, i was losing sleep checking his work and giving him advice in addition i figured it would be easier if i called him seeing that phone bills were massively high where he was so i did most of the calling, if he was sad, angry etc, i called.. as a BROKE student.I arrived back in the country and suddenly he was busy, even though he worked about 15min drive from my home. I figured that since he had his thesis working on then he was too busy. We celebrated his birthday with his friends, made him cake the works and for the entire holiday, he was super busy, he only had time for his friends if he had to see me he would make up all sorts of excuses. I finally decided that we had to sort this out because it was doing my head in and he makes it clear to me that although he may have given me signals that he was interested he never actually said it and now he thinks he might still be in love with his ex and they have been talking about getting back together. obviously I was devastated because i actually thought this guy was serious and i hung up on him. a few days later he calls and says he doesn't want me out of his life but there is another girl he likes and he has ended it with his ex and maybe in the future he and I might end up together. so exactly one year to the day I meet this guy he starts a new relationship with an entirely different girl. Now he is throwing it in my face because i decided to have absolutely no contact with him after he stated that he wants us to be best friends, he keeps trying to contact me and i keep ignoring him. Should i continue to ignore him or is that making the situation worse, i just want him out of my life. I feel so stupid and humiliated. Anybody got any advice for me!!
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reader, d4u04  +, writes (5 April 2006):
 Yeah i would keep ignoring him because you can never be 'best friends' with someone you've had relationship feelings for because those old feelings keep getting in the way and one or the other will be thinking 'what if we got back together' etc... and then you'll be falling back into the 'I want him back' trap which will only end it miserary a few months or years down the line. good luck honey x
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