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*woopie107
writes:I already accepted the fact that I was in love with the same gender. We got really close and I fell in love with her. I talked to her everyday on the phone, she'd hug me most of the time. with some things happening, I changed my ways because of her. It was my first time falling in love too. During summer, I got frustrated and cut all connections with her because of some problems with my family. School came along and I made up with her but we never really talked personally. I just passed by like I didn't know her at all. After a few months, I confessed and she said she needs time. It's been a week and I haven't talked to her at all. I just keep on making eye contact. I want to try to talk to her but everytime she passes by I just act like I don't see her at all because I'm afraid of getting ignored and looking like an idiot...What should I do with this? I didn't put all the details so please feel free to ask questions.
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reader, alice0110  +, writes (25 November 2010):
so, it seems as though you really like the girl, you are just scared of what other people might say/ think?
its perfectky normal to feel like that but its important for you to remember to just be yourself and if other people are worth it, they will accept you for who you are. and the people who dont are the people who are also hiding something. be yourself and be proud :)
please, tell her how you feel, if not you will regret it. although i havent been in your situation with someone of the same sex, i have been in this position with a boy and trust me, if you dont tell them how you feel, you will alwyays look back and think what if.
good luck :)
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reader, Viv Acious +, writes (25 November 2010):
Hello.
If I can just summarise.
You fell in love with your friend. 'Some things happened' -I assume behaviour which was more than friendship. You then cut her dead over summer (for whatever reasons, you stop all contact), you make up at school but then start ignoring her as if she didn't exist, have a chat about your feelings and then you start ignoring/avoiding her each time you see her. If I were her, I would want to think about it too.
The trouble is you are giving off, shall we say, 'mixed signals'. She is not a mind reader. You don't want to be ignored so your answer is to ignore her. Do you see the contradiction? You are doing to her the one thing you don't want doing to yourself.
Give her some space to think and try and be consistent with your behaviour. Think how she feels when you ignore her. If you walk by - smile - and then, if you have to, walk on. She is probably confused about your behaviour.
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