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writes: My friend Hannah (not her real name) lost her Dad (he was 42) in a car accident and she been annoying me ever since it happen. One day Hannah wining about her Dad and I lost it (didnt mean to) and told her shes being obsessed with him and needs to forget him (again I didnt mean too). She SLAPPED me across the face and walk away. Than later get a phone call my friend/Hannah's Katilyn (not her real name) telling me much a jerk I am and she in the bathroom CRYING at lunch time!! I got one of friends to say sorry for me but he told me that she wont accext my apology until I do it in pesion, Help me Reply to this Question
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reader, mamasaidknockyouout  +, writes (21 July 2008):
....how she replied to your friend basically gave you your answer...TELL HER IN PERSON.
but don't appease her, actually mean it because that was a totally asshole thing to do. very callous. try growing up and stop thinking about your well-being too much. your mild annoyance of her was probably meaning the world to her that you 'cared.'
I wouldn't be suprised if she didn't forgive you.
trying being empathetic.
if that's too hard, be sympathetic, but she might not like that.
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (21 July 2008):
Agreed, apologize to her yourself. Also, try to be extra sweet to her and do whatever you can... people remember the way other people make them feel during hard times in their lives. She'll never forget what you said or how it made her feel, but if you show her-- don't just tell her-- that you're sorry, she'll see you're a true friend.
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reader, lonely101 +, writes (21 July 2008):
My suggestion would be to apologize in person. Tell her that you're really very sorry, that you didn't mean what you said and explain that you don't understand how she feels about the situation. Offer to listen to her problem. The girl just lost her father, as another one of the responders said that is not an easy thing to get past. It's very likely that she'll never really "get over it." The whole situation is made worse by the fact that his death was so sudden, she may even still be in shock. The best, and in my opinion, only way you're going to save your friendship is by apologizing and meaning it and then going on to be there for her. What she needs right now is for people to be understanding and accepting.
That being said, don't beat yourself up over the situation. I'm sure you didn't really mean those things, it just gets upsetting when someone dwells on something hurtful and you can't help them get past it, right?
Just be sure to be more sensitive to her, if the situation were turned around you'd want her to be there for you right?
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reader, °Ale°  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 I agree with Miss Tremor here- be a man and tell her yourself. Your really made a huge mistake by being so cold to your friend.
Go say you're sorry and call it a day- after all, you already got slapped for it.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Just because you 'didn't mean to' doesn't mean it didn't hurt her. You were insensitive, and she has every right to be annoyed at you.
Why not just apologize to her? Take her aside and let her know you regret what you said (You do, right?), that you're there for her if she needs you, and that you are very, very sorry.
Don't ever get your friends to do it for you - that's the wimpy way out. Be a man and do it yourself.
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