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writes:lately ive not been my sweet loving self. i find my boyfriend really irritating and annoying..i just think hes boring and when we on the phone half of the time am not even listening to what hes saying..i dont miss him and i cant even say i love him back when he says he loves me..why do i feel like this?? i use to be soo inlove with him and would chat to him non stop..now i dont pick up his calls anymore.hes soo sweet and loves me soo much..i just want us to work:(why do i feel like this?? i dont want to break up with him cos i know we'd both be heart broken:(thanks..xx Reply to this Question
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reader, cheekyfriday  +, writes (13 November 2010):
Your bored with him and he is wonderful. I have been here a few times. Once i fell in love for two weeks, and than got ever so bored with him, and dumped him to hook up with a guy I had the hots for all through school, only to find out how slow he drove a car, and thinking well all this for a guy I really have nothing in common with except he made my heart flutter from his good looks.
I found I loved the ones that hurt me, and I never fell in love with the ones that treated me so good. I than thought, what is it, am I a treat them mean and keep them keen girl?
Your just learning life, its all part of the parcel, you have learnt as much as you needed to to get to this point, and you have now lost interest.
If you can not say you love him break his heart gentally, now rather than later its getting close to xmas and he could get a new romance in by than with another women that has broken up with her man.
There is a song that you might like to Missy Higgins 'Where I Stood'.
The lyrics sort of apply to you....
I don't know what I've done
Or if I like what I've begun
But something told me to run
And honey you know me it's all or none
There were sounds in my head
LIttle voices whispering
That I should go and this should end
Oh and I found myself listening
'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
See I thought love was black and white
That it was wrong or it was right
But you ain't leaving without a fight
And I think I am just as torn inside
'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
And I won't be far from where you are if ever you should call
You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all
But you taught me how to trust myself and so I say to you
This is what I have to do
'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
Oh, she who dares to stand where I stood
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 November 2010):
 I agree with caringguy at the end of the day if he anoys you and you cant be bothered picking up his phone calls or listening to him then its obvious you dont really love him anymore. It happens sometimes people just fall out of love we have no control over this, you are probably a different person now than when you started going out with him, i think you are more scared of being on your own than heartbroken. Also its better that you finish with him now than let it carry on the way it is now. find the willpower to finish it and move on, ok so he will be hurt but he will get over it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2010):
To be honest, it sounds like this relationship is done. Only you can really tell yourself what's wrong here. Maybe something happened between you two a while back that caused you to grow distant, or maybe this relationship has just gone as far as it can.
I think instead of just 'wanting it to work', you need to sit down alone and really think about what this relationship means, and whether you are truly committed to him, and whether you truly love him. You need to sit and be honest with yourself. Is this the man you want to be with for the rest of your life? If it's not a straight 'yes', then it's time to go. Don't stay with him just out of fear of hurting him or yourself. Stay with him because you want to be with him for the rest of your life, live with him have kids with him etc.
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